I need help!!!

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Hello.I’m new here.I have a very serious problem that is about to make my mind crazy.I’ve committed suicide.I just need someone to help me solve my problems or maybe listen to me.Actually,last 4 years, I have a fiance but I broke up with him because of one guy that I think is suitable for me.For the first few months, this new guy is good to me and do everything I say.But the problem came after that.I can handle all the problems made by him but only this I can’t handle.Recently, I celebrate my birthday and he surprised me with bouquet of flower and a gold and diamond bracelet.2 days after that happen, he change because I’ve forgotten to do something that’s very compulsory in my life.He then got angry and you know what?He went to prostitute that night.He called me and told me to listen or else he will do something more terrible.I have no choice but to listen.He was indeed in bed with either a Phillipine or Thai prostitute.I was shocked after the girl make all the moaning sound.Till now, I can’t forget about that incident.I don’t have a peaceful sleep and I hardly eat anything.Now, the problem is that I won’t give him up because he has promised me that this December, we’ll get engage.I have done abortion twice with is child.I can’t leave him.He never listen but expect me to listen.What am I to do?Help me.

jOhO SG

ok.. first, u need to use paragraphs.

second, wat's that that i've highlighted in red?

third, wat a fUcker!!!! i mean he seemed nice to u, and apparently u did something wrong (the part in red rite? which is wat?) and this is his revenge?? i'm kinda intrested to know wat u did that made him like this...

jOhO SG

oh, and by any chance, u interested in coming to sentosa this sat? there's an outing, click the link in my thread. Wink

jazzy13 SG

he does not deserve u...how could he do that to you???
any chance you can let go? actually, not chance, you have to.
dun forget, u have to spend the rest of your life wif him.
u can tolerate noe...but wat abt the future when there are more demands...
mentally and physically...
do u think u can cope?
take care! i wish u lots of luck!!

sgboy2004 SG

u go prostitute... and ok wif u...

u "power" sia ....

skinnybeanie SG

he's not worthy of all the trouble you have gone through for him.
And it's also about time you take a look at your life, the mess you are in and reflect on your actions.

Having an abortion is wrong, but pardonable since everybody make mistakes.
But to not learn from the mistake and do it twice, that is unforgivable.

And regardless of what you had done wrong (or forgot to do) is not a good excuse for the guy to treat you like trash.

My advice: dump him, learn from your mistakes, move on

Devil1976 SG

If you PM me your contact, we can talk over the phone...

So much for your e-mail...? Cool

BrUtUs SG

erm wats the most compulsory in ur life? hv sex wif him? u gonna make it clear... wat ur guy did was totally unacceptable, n u should jz leave him... hes not worth it... u will onli get miserable if u persist...

sgboy2004 SG

hmmm...hmmmm....

Kennerve SG

Babe.. u really need to paragrah ur words mans... Eh.. you committed suicide and u can write in? how you suppose to do that? Laughing

Ok.. On a more serious note..

Firstly, you made a mistake by breaking up with your fiance because of another guy.. Both of you are suppose to be engaged or some would say married.. My question to you is.. Are you really ready to get married or are you getting married for the sake of being married?

At the way you are talking abt this new guy, it seems tat he is trying to break you up from a marriage.. Just because of something that is soooo important than he goes to find a prostitude? What is he trying to tell you? That if you are not around, there are other women out there who can "satisfy" his needs?

You said you die die won't give him up and he promised that both of you are going to get engaged this coming dec.. Miss ah.. like one of those who replied to you.. Marriage is a life long thing.. It is not something that after 3 to 5 years, you are sick of it, you divorce or what.. Think of the effects he may give to the family after both of you are husband and wife..

He has visited prostitudes.. How clean is he? Can i ask? You have done 2 times abortion for him.. If he really loves you, he would have kept those 2 innocent lifes and not ask you to abort it..

Throughout the whole incident, i can sadly say you have been fooled... What you are feeling remorse now is because you DID NOT do that compulsory thing which made him to look for prostitudes.. Than do you think behind your back, he never go visit them?

Conclusion: This guy is really not worthy of your love.. He is actually showing you his true colours and since you know what he is like, should do something abt it.. My advice.. End it asap or you will suffer..

Yunhaier SG

Surprisingly, you left a fiance for a complete new guy. Your past relationship with him must have been bitter and this new guy's appearence probably gave you the strength to leap across boat? And strange as it may be, your past relationship with him may reveal bits and pieces of your current fate.

New guy good to you? If I were to say all 'new guy' will be good to a girl whom he wants to chase and knows she is attached in the beginning, how well do you know if your guy is truely good or acting good?

I do not understand the part of you forgetting to do something very compulsory in your life - it makes no sense and doesn't justify why that matter could allow him the excuse to visit prostitute. And seriously, HOW SERIOUS do you expect a man like him, whom you had two abortion with, to be your happily ever after? I beg to differ, do you think he would actually marry you considering the fact that you had TWO abortion of his child and I presume part of pressure in aborting comes from him? Rolling Eyes

Once is still ok. Twice is crap. True love protects, never hurt consciously. Without using protection and to abandon past lessons, it simply shows how self-absorbed he is.

CloUdiSm Remix III: Love - before you can learn to protect her from others, you have to learn to protect her from yourself.

Emotions aside - you sure you want to marry this man? My dear girl, open your eyes and don't be naive. How old are the both of you? Don't be led by emotions to fool you into thinking that everything is going as plan and he will still love you like previously. THIS IS HIS REAL CHARACTER - stop practicing self-delusion to think that you could probably change him or something. You can't and your heart would probably bleed trying. Rolling Eyes

Cheers

gerrykoh SG

This guy is sick. First he acts sweet by buying u gifts, then he is threatening u to do what he wants by going to prostitutes.
Are u going to be controlled by him?
U have gone thr 2 abortions & suicide, pls. take care of yr body. U have the right to say no. & stand up to him

sillyme SG

leave him? why not?

SunRisE SG

Heed the ppl advise here.. Especially yunhaier.. or maybe you could call devil for help.. Dun worry.. there are nice ppl.. You seriously need to think about your r/s with this guy... You are almost getting married with your past fiance but then you left him for this new "perfect" guy..

Is he really that good.. ?? Noone is perfect.. Dun get fooled by him.. You are jus too emotional in handling r/s.. You based all purely on your feelings.. no rational thinking.. You should reflect yourself.. you did so much thing for him.. but what do you get in returN?? Jus becos of one stupid mistake and he's making your life screwed upside down.. What is so compulsory and importanT? Ppl do make mistake.. Have he learn to forgive you.. NO! He merely taking revenge... or out to spike you by doin such things.. Is all his excuses!!

You not goin to give him up jus becos you both are engaging this year end.. Are you sure that you wanna live with him your whole life?? Marriage ain't child play.. Is full of commitment.. he can do this once to you.. there bound to be a second.. And worse of all.. all these started even before the marriage.. Whart makes you so sure and confirm that he will change when you both are married.. Are you sure you have the power to do that? Don't be too naive.. Wake up and see the real world! You have to learn to protect yourself!!

Cheers Wink

Kennerve SG

Originally posted by Yunhaier:

Surprisingly, you left a fiance for a complete new guy. Your past relationship with him must have been bitter and this new guy's appearence probably gave you the strength to leap across boat? And strange as it may be, your past relationship with him may reveal bits and pieces of your current fate.

New guy good to you? If I were to say all 'new guy' will be good to a girl whom he wants to chase and knows she is attached in the beginning, [b]how well do you know if your guy is truely good or acting good?

I do not understand the part of you forgetting to do something very compulsory in your life - it makes no sense and doesn't justify why that matter could allow him the excuse to visit prostitute. And seriously, HOW SERIOUS do you expect a man like him, whom you had two abortion with, to be your happily ever after? I beg to differ, do you think he would actually marry you considering the fact that you had TWO abortion of his child and I presume part of pressure in aborting comes from him? Rolling Eyes

Once is still ok. Twice is crap. True love protects, never hurt consciously. Without using protection and to abandon past lessons, it simply shows how self-absorbed he is.

CloUdiSm Remix III: Love - before you can learn to protect her from others, you have to learn to protect her from yourself.

Emotions aside - you sure you want to marry this man? My dear girl, open your eyes and don't be naive. How old are the both of you? Don't be led by emotions to fool you into thinking that everything is going as plan and he will still love you like previously. THIS IS HIS REAL CHARACTER - stop practicing self-delusion to think that you could probably change him or something. You can't and your heart would probably bleed trying. Rolling Eyes

Cheers [/b]

Summary of what i said.. haha.. nice and sweet

ahkico SG

Hi there...

Don be so upset...

Do u really think tat by commitin suicide, u can solve all the prob? True, once dead, u r free from all ur probs... But have u tot of the people who cares for u around u? Ur parents, esp... Alot of people all care for u, n if u jus go lik tat, can u imagine their sadness? Mayb to u their sadness is nothin... But do spare a tot for them... The anguish they suffer cannot be described in words, esp ur parents...

Do u really think it is worth to die for a guy lik tat? Do u think he will be remoseful, etc? Think twice, the way he treats u, i think he won't... sorry if i m bein harsh here... Don u think tat bein alive is far better than bein dead? Aren't there many other things tat u haven' fufil?

U haven't seen ur self in ur happiest moment, gettin married...
Havin children...
Growin old, havin grand children, etc...
Ur job...
Happy moments tat u will treasure, but u wouldn know if u r gone...

Wat u should do is actually to SHOW HIM tat u can live a happy life even without him!!! He tot tat u cannot do without him... Thus, he dares to be so darin... Askin u to listen to him havin sex wif another gal...

Think bout tis... Do u really want tis kind of guy as ur hubby? For the rest of ur life? He may promise to get engaged, but will he? And he is able to do such a cruel thing, u can guarantee tat he won do tat again in the future?

U needn feel guilty about havin the abortions... I mean, both of u aren't ready yet to be parents... It won be fair to the child if he or she is born, n deemed as a burden... The child surely won be loved as much as u would have liked to... N it is so unfair to the child...

Jus forget everythin... Put the past behind u... I think u really love him so much tat u r willin to do so much for him... But one should have a limit to where u stand... Certain things r jus to much to bear...

R u afraid, coz u feel u mak a wrong choice in the 1st place? Tat u chosen tis guy over another guy u were supposed to get engaged to? Tis tots mak u want to stay on to tis relationship to prove tat u aren't wrong?

Every one makes mistakes in his or her judgement... But if we realise it n is willin to rectify it, things wouldn be so bad...

I feel tat u deserved better...

Things may get tough in the beginnin.... But then... Try erase the past, start all over again... Go into another relationship only if u feel ready... Don let others force u anymore...

Mayb u r afraid of the fact tat coz u have abortion twice, tat people will mind? I feel tat all tis is part of ur past... U can choose to keep a secret forever... Jus treat it as a nite mare...

I sincerly hop tat things will turn out better for u... Life is precious, please don do so silly things for someone tat is such a jerk n not worth it...

Be strong... N prove to him n urself more imptly, tat u can face everythin n can do without him... Wink

browniebaobao SG

not again jOhO! Hahaha

browniebaobao SG

Dump him! Dun let him ruin your life further...

what if next time he brings another woman home and sleep on ur bed? Can you take it? I think u will go insane lor..

If he loves you, he would not have wanted you go for two abortions.

That's my personal opinion. I personally will not tolerate such acts. Ta de yan li mei you ni lor..