Both methods have been tried and tested by me.
In the past, I chose to be with someone who loves me and initiated
a relationship with me. After 4 years, we broke up because I could
never love her the way I wanted to.
Now, I choose to be with someone I love. Even after a big incident
caused by me, we are still back together and stronger. It's even
less than a year but we are already planning to get engaged this
year and get married the next.
My conclusion: I'd rather choose to love someone and face rejection
and learn the value of life from something that I chose to do. I'd
never want to be with someone I have no feelings for no matter how
good that person is because in the end, I learn nothing about
love.
To love someone and being loved naturally by that someone, whether
together or not, is the ultimate happiness.
To be loved by someone and be with that person without loving that
person is very selfish because you can never love the person
totally and absolutely the way he/she wants you to, no matter how
you open your mouth to convince the person and yourself.
