Is this a serious problem?

Scape_Goat_Token SG

Hi, I'm a new member and I have a problem, I hope you guys can advise me on what to do.

This has nth to do with BGR. ( I'm only in sec scho0l, not so good-looking, so I don't intend to go into that anywhere in the near future etc..)

I'm an avid player of Duel Monsters, or what people call Yu-gi-oh and I have a serious problem that does sorta involve this game but it is not ABOUT this game.

First I got to say I'm on a different level from those people playing outside MRT stations.., in Bishan etc.., I'm on a competitive level and I have won some small tournaments.

Everytime I lose, i get this sharp pain on my chest, I feel like I'm going to die lyke that. I can't concentrate for the remainding of that day until I sleep and forget everything. Sometimes while playing, I get seriously high fever and cold sweet. Then after a few hours, the fever subsides and I become normal again. Sometimes I wonder whether it's because I'm stressed.

This happen when I'm playing Warcraft frozen throne, I just started a few months ago and I can't stand even one lose record on battle.net. For those pple who play,. you would know that it is quite difficult to get a no lose record while fighting against players with more experience. But once I lose, I will start a new account, the same cycle repeats and I sulk the whole day..etc..

When I'm playing the game ( duel monsters ), i totally forget about food, my welfare etc...I can go out a day at about noon and come back at 10 without eating anything at all. I feel as if 1 second has passed only. Then I get totally drained from all the thinking, playing..., and sometimes I think I'm going to faint.

I have also totally lost the interest to play with common-ers, those people I think they are too " normal " for me to duel with. I always play ante match against a person who is extremely strong, ( people usually do the opposite ), and even if I lose, I feel happy.

I think something is wrong with me...

BonJovi SG

Sorrie....but wad is Duel Monsters??? Mr. Green

chunyong SG

hmm, means u 'Shu Bu Qi' aka no sportsmanship, cannot accept defeat. u will slowly grow out and up from it one lah... nobody win forever, nobody lose forever one. but don't let it affect u so much, u should snap out of it soon when the game ends. don't brood over it, its just a game, non-reality, virtual, non-existance etc...if u feel so strongly abt a game, means u are too deeply addicted. suggest u sell away ur YuGiOh deck or wat, or keep it away.

Don't let a game ruin your mental state and health, not worth it.

Yunhaier SG

You have a very competitive nature and could have some form of compulsory behavior to win. I suggest you see a shrink regarding this, especially if it is affecting your lifestyle, health and overall well-being.

P.S: In life you can't always win. Sometimes, you need to lose in order to win. You must evolve your mindsets or scenarios in the future could kill you.

Cheers

I-like-flings(m) SG

Originally posted by Yunhaier:

You have a very competitive nature and could have some form of compulsory behavior to win. I suggest you see a shrink regarding this, especially if it is affecting your lifestyle, health and overall well-being.

P.S: [b]In life you can't always win. Sometimes, you need to lose in order to win. You must evolve your mindsets or scenarios in the future could kill you.

Cheers [/b]

yup "compulsory behavior " that's the problem... try to take things easy and learn how to forget or loses...... if still cannot help.... pls seek professional help

parn SG

Scape_Goat_Token, there is nothing wrong with you. It is just part and parcel of growing up, something that everybody will need to overcome.

Tell you what, try switching to play some team based games and if you still cannot stand defeat, then it is best for you to stay away from those games. It is not going to do you any good if you are going to end up feeling pissed everytime you loses a game. Not good for you and even worse for those people who love you. Think they are going to feel so hurt if they have to keep seeing you feeling sad like this everytime.

I'm not asking you to quit those games completely, just get away from those games until you are mentally prepared to accept defeat if you lose. Before you even play the game, always do a small self-simulation by yourself by imagining that you have already lost a game. If you feel that the pissing feeling is coming back to you again, then you will know that it is still not the right time for you to play those game yet.

You will learn how to accept defeat....when you are so hungry to play those game...eventually and you will probably have to force yourself to overcome that pissing feeling and learn to accept defeat...just for the sake of being able to play those game again.

Good Luck and be a better man~ Smile

Rad SG

If the problem persists…it means you have OCD…go consult a doctor.

Scape_Goat_Token SG

Thanks for all the advices but I think that for myself to quit this game is impossible at the present moment.

Whenever I imagined myself losing, I will eventual lose the game. So i was just thinking I can't be always imagining myself losing.

This game is very thrilling, like you don't know when you're gonna lose or win, ( most games are like that, right? ), and when I eventually lose, yes, I can admit defeat, but I can't just get over it.

I think there is a thin line between admitting defeat and can't get over a lost. I feel lost. Whenever I tell myself, " it's just a game", i get haunted by the repeating scene of the lost. I just remember the entire way I lost. Thinking, if i did this at that time, what will happen etc.., and when I keep on thinking until, " If I did this, I could have won"..i feel the ache in my heart..

haizz...since school is reopening tommorow, i think the days i would go out and play are only on weekends perhaps. hopefully, things will get better.

ETboy SG

i play War craft but i play coustom game only… i got a lot fren in B.net they win alot lose a little bit nia… thye damn pro 1

Magnus SG

'Addicted' is the word.

Yeah. Try to do other things and moderate your gaming.
If this goes on, you will need professional help.

ahkico SG

Ya... Think tat tis is a gd idea... Too much play n no work will too affect ur studies... Mayb u R a competitive player... But dun let the game affect ur health so much... A game is meant to be relaxing n not harmful! Mayb now is a gd time, since school is reopenin... Try to free urself from the game, find other activites to do lor... If really want play, play it leisurely... I feel nothin is wrong, jus tat U r overly serious when playin... Cool it N relax!

Failure is the mother of all sucess! Laughing

Devil1976 SG

I'm quite agreeable with this.

And to some extreme sense, it can be QUITE BAD... Damage your health very much... And psychologically you can be considered quite unsound... Balance off your life to other things and activities...

In long term wise, it can be like a DRUG... And YES... To an extreme sense, it CAN KILL you....