small_girl SG Ive known this guy recently online. He happens to be a friend of my ex's and we got along quite well. He helped me solve some of my problem with my ex, acting as the middle person. He broke up with his girlfriend of three years recently because she was unfaithful to him and now he tells me he loves me. I used to get sad when he told me he wasnt in a good mood cos of his gf and jealous when he went out with her instead of meeting me but now that he's single I dont seem to "want" him that bad. But i do miss him a lot when he's not with me and when Im with him I feel a sense of security. Ive started to treat him as my boyfriend too. But yet when he tells me he loves me or he misses me I do not feel a thing. Have I fallen for him or I just wanted somebody that was not mine or was I just lonely for love? Please help.. He's asked me to be his girl but Ive not agreed cos we are from different schools and we stay quite far from each other and meeting will be difficult so I'll see how we progress when the term starts. He's the first and the last one I think of each day and if I dont get his sms or missed call I will be in a really bad mood the whole day. When Im sad, happy, or afraid I will find him. Is this love? Another thing.. I am taller than him and I kind of mind our difference in height (about 10 cm) though I dont really look much taller than him.
Nelstar SG Height do not make any difference. You just treat him as a soulmate. He's not really the one since you hardly wanted to do anything for him.
Magnus SG Yes, you are in love. But not in love with him. You are in love of the feeling of being loved. If you love him, you would have already accepted him and not post your doubts here. What different school lah, stay far lah, height lah etc..
parn SG Okie...you are still not comfortable enough being together with him, that's why you are feeling confused right now. But one thing for sure, you like him and he like you. Since both liking is mutual, I would like to tell you that it is called, love. Both of you need to spend more time together before you can feel truly assured of your feelings for him. But that's his job to make that happen isn't it? Well...you can also ask him out to spend time with you, if you don't mind. The reason why you don't feel anything when he tells you that he loves you or misses you is because you haven't find the reason on why you love him. You love him but you also don't know why, so how can you feel happy? But even so, I'm sure you don't feel repulsive towards him when he does that, right? You don't seems to 'want' him that bad after he broke up with his gf is because he haven't been hanging out with other girls yet. How would you feel if he has been spending more time with other girls? Hmm...about the height factor, I can assure you that you will grow out of that thinking as you get more mature...hehehe...older. Don't feel bad if I'm unable to give you the answers to all your doubts. Your love for him is still in a very very early stage. So it is very difficult to tell how things will develop in the future. Give yourself and him a chance to find out the reason for you to love him. I sincerely wish you all the best with him. Love is tricky and sneaky...always avoiding those who seeks it. So it will come easier to those people who doesn't go looking for it. Just make sure you don't let go of it easily and allow love to slip from your grasp once you caught it.
SunRisE SG I guess you suffer fromt he previous relationship and wants the feeling of being in loved again.. He might be jus the "happen to be" guy who's always there for you when you are sad, unhappy.. etc.. You enjoy his companion.. and when he's not around.. you feel down.. cos he's the only person you can turn to.. Well, i assume that your kind of love.. maybe jus a friendship.. you loved him as a friend.. A friend who you can rely on.. but when he says he love you.. and in return if you do really love him too.. you won't have post your problem here.. you'll be with him happily.. since you found your love..but no.. you are confused.. between love and friendship... or either.. you jus wan to be being loved by other.. and not to love another.. as for the height, it doesnt seems to post a problem unless you yourself do mind alot.. and keep thinking it is a problem.. since he dun mind at all.. and accept you.. you should oso accept the way he is.. Sch far.. stay far.. is jus an excuse for you.. so that there's a reason for you of not accpeting him.. You are very indecisive.. Learn more to be independent and make your own decisions.. come out with a solution and do it.. dun delay n delay.. Cheers!
gerrykoh SG Ya, totally agree. Since u both broke up with your ex, better be more cautious about getting into another relationship so fast as u may be on the rebound. U miss the ‘in love’ stage. As u are aware of the differences & difficulties in sustaining a relationship, better to take things slowly. Get to know him better first before agreeing to be his gf
small_girl SG yeps.. that’s why im taking things slow. i think i do like him cos there are or were other guys who pursuing me but i dont feel the same way bout them. i agree with erm i forgot the person’s name.. i think i like him a little but i just dont know why yet and so im not committing. plus ive been hurt many times by guys so i dont wanna rush into this relationship too soon. you’re right, i do know that im indecisive that’s why im posting this problem here for you guys to help me.. i hope im not taking him for granted already.. that’s what my ex told me.. that i took him for granted. thanks guys for the reply..
small_girl SG i do do stuff for him.. that day he bought breakfast for me and i fed him. and i accompany him at night when he works. ok i dont do that much but at least it's a start..
SunRisE SG Heal your wound first.. you been hurt too many times.. when you are fully calm and stable with your emotions.. then from there decide which way you wann go for... Take time.. there's no rush for anything..
SunRisE SG dun drag too long oso.. but if he really loves you.. he'll wait.. this period of time.. both can consider whether you suit each other anot.. and whether is jus out of companion then you wan to be together.. think b4 you react.. b4 everything is too late...
BonJovi SG SOrrie...juz asking arh...ur nick Small girl and tt guy is 100mm shorter den u . How tall r u??
