Tell mi someone wat to do

last SG · 2004-06-10T11:57:04+00:00

According to CloUdiSm Remix III: every relationship is born of karmic or benefic. Benefic relationship is harmonious and fulfilling. In search of Higher Tw...

sleeping SG

After reading so much on the different topic i decide to seek some help from all forumers out there.

Im feeling veri the lost n sad now as im writting this. I have being together wif this girl for almost 5 years from the time we are in poly to Oz to study n back. During our time in Oz we live together n do things that only husband n wife do. I have all along have the mind set we will get marry n live everly happpy together. N recently after we came back for a couple of mths while we are still struggling to look for a job she decide to break wif mi. N less than 1 week after we breakup she is back wif her ex-bf whom she has break up twice oredi before. This guy is a know to have many girls around him all the time n this is one of the reason that she broke up wif him in the frist place. N now he is doing part time poly nite time but he has a stable income.

I try my best to win her back but all she say is that she is KIV mi. N that her relationship wif that guys is like those of a teenage love n those of mi is of adult nature. n she at the moment prefer those of teenage nature.

On mi
-she say that im her veri special good friend( i still can visit her home).
-Im like a product that one look n look before buying home becous when im brought home it definily can be use n keep.
-she feel comfortable n can be herself when wif mi

On him
-he is a good friend
-he is a product that one will buy without thinking n then when at home will think is how n why it can be use.
-she feel happy to see him

Im confuse by all she has say becous n different day she can be saying different thing. N she say she has even kiss n hold his hand n trying to work out the relationship. N she still kiss mi every now n then and then tell mi she still love mi n care for mi. But everytime when we are together n the guy calls she always told mi to make no sound, n she call chat happily wif him while im just like an idiot waiting there. She did not let the guy know wat anything about us like going out n on the phone. Even when going out on a date she always gave pirority to him n feed mi in on days when he is no free.

Is she trying to tell mi something? i keep asking her or is she 2timer mi n is she fooling mi? she just keep saying no n all the answers she tell is like maybe n dun know she cannoot just gave mi a yes or no answer. N last week when i try to returen the ring to her she at first say not to pass it to her directly becous she do not dare to take it n then later she change her story to that maybe i should keep it for another few mth then see how from there on. N i just being use as a spare wheel. sometime she can say then she dun know is her relationship wif him can work out or not n that for mi she has higher hope. Wat man i getting soo confuse on wat to do. I try to tell her im not playing wif her anymore n she just hold on to my hand n cry n refuse to let go.

I really love her soo much after all that we have being thru. N just this afteroon she tell mi she is like that becouse she treat n love different people differently. tell mi guys wat i should do. Just now that guy just calll n the next moment she is out of the house again. im getting veri the confuse n sad. Her family is not veri supportive of her meeting this guy.

Wat have i done wrong someone tell mi pls...it is affecting mi soo much that i cannoot sleep at nite n now i need pills to put mi to sleep n she still can enjoy herself.
tks for reading

Nelstar SG

you're the man she brings home to see mom and dad and your rival is the man she brings home to see your bed when you're married.

My advice:

Get another girl, she's not worth your time at all.

parn SG

Move on with your live and make sure you ignores her. By ignoring her, you can concentrate on your own life and live a better life without her. Laughing

You will probably blame her for whatever hurt she has brought upon you. But then...on the other hand, she is also not obliged to stick with you when times are bad for you. Neutral

Good luck...your journey have just started. Smile

leafygreens SG

leave her...
i presume u did not do anything bad to her while u two are together...

IMO she is still unsure...her ex-bf gives her those thrills & sparks she gets while she was still in ur teenage love years...but u give her stability & secureness which she cant get from her ex... she just wants the best out of both worlds?

sorry to say this...maybe she finds u boring? or either way she finds that the relationship is getting stale?

edwinSSM SG

Wah… all tell him to leave her… Its easier said then done! But still u have to decide whether ur love for her can overlook such a huge flaw in her. Tough chioce, but its one u have to think about and make a decision.

the Bear SG

nelstar’s brutal, but there it is…

Saint` SG

god dammit .. leave her .. how could she do this to u .. i think u might wanna have a show down with her .. this cant do .. the way u r describing .. she is definitely 2 timing the both of u and the guy .. its not fair for u and him too .. i cant imagine what is she doing to the other guy while u r away .. its so hard to do so .. but i guess its onli rightful if u pick up ur courage to leave her and break free .. this rls is gonna to drag and all the parties involve will not be happy in the end

BrUtUs SG

i noe its hard but u reali hv to forget abt her n move on to other better gals… she luv him more than u… so dun put too much hope tat she will luv u 100% even u manage to get her bk… chill pal..

JeweL81 SG

truth are so hard to swallow

Yunhaier SG

I am pretty sure that your karmic bonds with her will last longer than you would have imagine. That's because of the length of years and the effect of seduction that you are trapped within her grasp, has sunk deep and poison your decision making skills and love for her.

I am so fringin` sure that, in the first place, your position in her heart was never the first. You are back for only a while and she returned to her ex within one week? Let me reassure you with 95% confidence that there are stories on her side you never knew when you were in OZ and when you are back here.

Truth number one:

They have always kept in contact and I am sure that the contact wasn't simple and pure. These contacts locked emotional motive beneath those words and thus she never really got over him.

You are trashed under his feet the minute you returned to Singapore. Can you imagine, all these years and sadly, you never stood a chance? Rolling Eyes

Teenage love? Adult love? Complete nonsense. Allow me to enlighten you on why she is behaving in such a manner: She wants to have the best of both worlds. Even though this guy may not be suitable for her, but he has the kind of qualities she would go crazy for - too bad, he lack stability. Therefore, she would need you to supply her with stability - someone to fall back in case this guy loses interest in her and at least she won't lose everything. She would still be stable, in some sense.

This woman is highly deceptive. Her words and position changes frequently. Look at how her points shifted to suit to her current position? Your eyes are blindly in love with her, but surely your mind understand what I have wrote?

If you are willingly to be a mere shadow of the guy, continue what you have been doing because it have been 5 years and you never succeed in portraying the real you and win her over EVEN THROUGH PRIVATE & CONSTANT meeting and living together in oz. There isn't any meaning to this chase anymore.

If all these words are unable to tear open your soul on why you should sever this karmic bond once and for all - you will be fulfilling this prophesy of mine in the first paragraph.

P.S: Is she is Pisces or Libra? Rolling Eyes

Cheers

StarPuppy SG

Exclamation *nods* its the true fact,it hurts lots but she using both or rather you as a spare tyre,if u have no more income,there is another guy ready for her and as Nelstar said,its horrible but true,one day u might come back and see them on your bed doing intimate things together
Better to have short-term pain then long-term hurt

Puppy

StarPuppy SG

what has Astrology signs got to do with it? Rolling Eyes

Puppy

GOiN^CrAzY^SooN SG

What if she is a Pieces? Any extra stuff to add on….?

Allendro SG

Dude, I feel sorry for you. But I have to agree that you should just walk away. She sounds like an immature, fickle brat who's not worth your time.

no_speeding SG

Yayayay....
screw her! Come on! thats obviously super selfish on her part! words are easier said than done but in my opinion, u know that shes not urs to keep.

Leave it behind lah. there are better girls ard.
Take it from me.. hahahaha.... i know.
Shocked

bo liao SG

yours also 5 yrs...i can understand ur feeling, its lik losing something so precious to you....yet u cun do anything...

lik wat u say, te guy cal, ask u to keep quiet, seems very knn, lik wear" green hat" lea.,

although i also hate to tel u this(i was also in tis situation b4,which i consulted forumers here) but i somehow agree to wat some other forumers say,leave her, cos lik tat already no point mah, get wat i mean? she be wid u but mayb bed wid him, very KNN...u can tahan mea...????

If u know her parents well, attack tat guy from her parents side, posin tat guy,(which i did Laughing )i say things lik, she always come back so late, neighbours see liao where got nice, parents worry bout her..always smell of beer...thinks tat can make her mom heart melt,say u dun mind losing her but cannot let her continue being lik tat, she wil hv no future,etc...u sure can do it..but most important, must see how she think liao
Gd luck.but i personnely think, i rather u short pain den long pain,cos if u r together wid her those farking thought wil automatic come into ur brain...which will indirectly make u possessive, den again she may leave you...some FEMALEs really "Na Bay Pua Chee Bai"some only lah.... Embarassed

Go chiong more,know more ppls lah, i now also starting to get over
my 5 yrs also ex....u will know there is so many other better ladies in singapore, only u have not touch their heart,sure can be more confident in yourself...

sleeping SG

Hi guys tks for all the advice. I have try my best to move on its always that painful for mi. And 2day she is again blowing hot at mi telling mi that she cares and that she n that guy is only a friend. Im not too sure whether to believe her or not. N im pretty sure she herself is confuse.

I wanted to fight n win her back n even if i lose i can say that i have oredi done my best but on the other hand im afraid that i can not face the failure again. The veri worlds that she use like we are all friends n all still got a change is veri the confusing to mi. If we are all friend then howcome i feel that she is incline towards him?

How man i really hope that i can get a clear cut answer out of this soon.

Btw she is a aries.

Yunhaier SG

Twisted Evil Embarassed

gerrykoh SG

IF i were u, I’ll get out of this love triangle. The girl clearly wants both guys, she is selfish & u are being made used of. To avoid this pain, stop communicating with her. Remember she is not the only girl in this world, there are others better out there. Find someone who will make u happy

audlenelee SG

it all depends on u eventually.. we can ALL tell u to leave her, dump her, dun be stupid... but if u decide that u wanna stick by her even if she does these things, we can't do much right...?

anyway, 1 qn.. wad if u left her, and the guy cheated on her again.. and she comes crying back to u.. will u be with her again? i hope u wouldn't, coz u might find urself in the same situation ALL OVER AGAIN...