sgFish SG uh..ok, here's my story.. there are 2 gals, lets call them..A and B.. A is someone i've liked for quite a while..but i suspect she only likes me as a friend..yar. then B is someone who..uh..likes me? but then i only like her in the platonic way la..but i'm sort of caught in between here..wad should i do? nothing? go for A or B?
I-like-flings(m) SG none!! must be u like her and she like u then can what...... dun waste time lah.. just pass mi their no. and i will settle this for u...
gerrykoh SG Don't go for either because: A) . No point going for someone who has no feelings for u. Waste of time. B) U are only using her as a substitute, will hurt her if u have no feelings for her. It is better to love & have your love returned.
shifeng SG i guess only u know the answer... have to search it within urself... no point asking ppl abt this, becos we duno how much u have goen thru with the each of them... juz my POV
kaobeikaobu SG go for both or nothing... y both? keep ur options open...then u got C till Z...so enticing heh? y none? coz cldnt work out wif A, then still can't like B... conclusion....change sex.
parn SG Heehee....love B lor, then ask B to help you together to get A to love you. Then you marry both of them to be one big happy family. Joking only lah...best is to follow your heart. If you like A, go ahead and love A. As for B...even if you body says "Yes!" but your heart says "NO!"...better don't go after her. But also don't close your heart to B lor...afterall, feelings can be nurtured. You will never know when you will be strucked by Cupid's misfire arrows.
sgFish SG uh..only as a friend.. according to someone who had told A i liked her..A said smth like "not like i care right? if 1000 ppl in the world were to have a crush on me, would i have to get attached with them?" sigh
parn SG Then she don't like you lor. By the way, next time if you like another girl...never tell anyone about it. Okie...tell only to your best friend who will never betray you. Because the rest of the world will betray you...trust me, I know. Sounds like A doesn't really know you at all...not even as a friend. So of course you cannot expect her to smile and blush and behave like she also like you right? It takes time...so if you really like/love her that much. Don't give up. Even when all the odds are against you, don't give up. Even when you imagine her actions/behaviour has already rejected you, don't give up. Even when her so-called sworn brothers/sisters threaten you with death and destruction, don't give up. Even when you are already very battered and tired from chasing her and feeling super frustrated for not able to win her love, don't give up. Give up only when your heart is already numbed of her and it doesn't matter if she tell you she hates you and ask you to go and die but you didn't. If you give up so easily, then how can you expect her to love you so much as to bear you children in the future? You want her, go and get her...you wild stallion.
Yunhaier SG This problem is never a problem in the first place - you must be quite young. Considering the fact that you share zero BGR feelings for B (platonic), so B never serve to be a problem unless you implicate your own situations and deemed it as a problem. You don't even know what A is truly thinking and feeling - you said suspect. Your only sensible route is to continue to check her out? Of course if you want to be give up half-way, it wouldn't be any problem apart from possible regrets in the future. Please realise that Love is not a trading - where something else could replace what feelings wanted. Many choices walk by, but is that what you want? Cheers
