Bro, there's no such thing as someone loving you willingly and
without intervention. Every relationship which occurs is simply
because there's a certain level of seduction taking place.
A good analogy is like you and a girl are different parts of a
puzzle coming together. Seduction is the process of filling in
those missing parts. OF COZ, u cannot seduce every type of girl.
Some just cannot, some easier, some harder. You have to acknowledge
this first.
You hear of very close couples who tell you that it was 'love at
first sight' for them, they tell you they can click instantly, they
can communicate so well so fast. It's simply they each were more of
the missing parts of the other, i.e. they could bond faster and
yeah, less seduction is needed. Yet you also hear of couples who
never knew they were gonna be couples, they seemed so different and
somehow through time, they ended up together. More seduction was
needed, whether it was done conciously by both parties or
unconciously, it definitely occured more.
Are you so sure that when she wants to settle down, she'll look at
you? U c, love is much like launching a new business product. You
need the right customer, right market, and also right timing. Maybe
now it's just not your time yet, and in future she'll look at you
differently, but can you really stand that feeling that she'll only
run to you cause you are security and not cause she really loves
you? Let's face facts here... You need money to survive in this
world. No matter how glorious n lovely love is, you eat with money,
not with love. But can you bear that feeling that she only looked
at u as a safety net and not something she has strong feelings and
wanna fight for? She could in future say she loves u alot n show
all that feelings n expressions, but as i say, judge pple from
their actions.
The maybe 'sad' thing is that pple do marry for money. Maybe it's
juz a fact to accept. Many married couples out there marry cause
it's impossible for most to live singly in singapore other than
staying with your parents. Not that they dun love their partners
but, they are somewhat forced to develop feelings with the most
suitable mate. Basically feeligns are not spontaneous and there
already. As they say, feelings can't be forced but it can be
developed under the rite conditions.
Sometimes, u gotta play abit u know 'unorthodox' and stir some
negative feelings in her, stir that jealousy feelings in her, or
anything. Whatever insecurity feelings she has, bring it out and
magnify it. Do it accidentally like everything was by accident. No
one is totally secure, so find that insecurity in her and keep
poking at it. Whatever is her insecurity, u gotta find that out
urself.
To find out more about that person's inner character. Ok wait, u c,
everyone of us wear 'masks' to face pple in society. And usually
what that mask shows is the opposite of their inside. Like sad pple
on the inside usually would try to act all gregerious and friendly
on the outside. It's like a body's natural defence to cover up your
inside insecurity. Look out for such signs. Of coz, there's no such
thing as general rules for everything. Seduction is alwaz on a case
by case basis...
And yes, seduction is not about looks, it's about playing with the
mind. History's great seducers didn't look fantastic at all.
Cleopetra, Don Juan, Cassanova etc... they weren't all great
looking but they had fantastic mental playing abilities. Also, if
looks was of primary importance in seduction, all of us human
beings would have evolved to be very good looking, but no, it's our
minds that evolved the most, so seduction is a game of the mind. Go
read that book i recommend, not only useful in relationships but
also in life general. Can also read 'The Seducer's Diary' by Soren
Kierkegaard.
Finally, in love n relationships, just like business, u can put in
all the effort n pin all your hope on something but it can juz fail
without reason. You have to accept this possibility. So be light
hearted, yet serious with the one u love. Take things easy and be
fun filled. Girls love dating fun n interesting pple. When you
fail, smile and move on as businessmen do when they fail.
Remember:
'What fails to make you fail, will help you succeed in your
eventual success'
Cheers
