Need help to get tis girl i like

watdoido SG

I have liked her for a few months now. But the problem is tat we seldom meet in sch as we take diff combis. Cuz i'm always busy with studies n cca, usually goin home at 6 or 7 at nite i don even have the time to wait for her after sch. There were times when we were alone together n we could get along veri well, confirming tat i really like her.

I used e phone instead to ask her out yesterday, but she said she was not free. She still talked to me abt wat happened in sch during the day, quite surprising after juz rejecting me. She doesnt talk much, her natural character. I dunno wat to do now. Cuz i feel realli bad being rejected. What should i do now? Tryin to ask her out again next weekend... CRYING OUT 4 HELP

jOhO SG

don't ask me why, but some girls want to see u, but not alone, scared wat other pple say about her. esp young shy and innocent type.

so.. i guess u could go out as a group... minimum three pple?

sgboy2004 SG

mi go find uncle and aunty agony to help u hor...wait hor... Very Happy

look for Yunhaier or Ditzy...

if u wanna learn to buaya, sign up with skeujin, the lecturer for Buayalogy...

Mr. Green

Good luck...

mi guess u hav to keep in constant contact with her lah, and one rejection does not mean anything, maybe she tat day really not free mah...try again lah...

cyndi^^ SG

Originally posted by watdoido:
I have liked her for a few months now. But the problem is tat we seldom meet in sch as we take diff combis. Cuz i'm always busy with studies n cca, usually goin home at 6 or 7 at nite i don even have the time to wait for her after sch. There were times when we were alone together n we could get along veri well, confirming tat i really like her.

I used e phone instead to ask her out yesterday, but she said she was not free. She still talked to me abt wat happened in sch during the day, quite surprising after juz rejecting me. She doesnt talk much, her natural character. I dunno wat to do now. Cuz i feel realli bad being rejected. What should i do now? Tryin to ask her out again next weekend... [b]CRYING OUT 4 HELP [/b]

give her time. at least she treats you as her friend Wink

boariggy SG

She could REALLY have been busy.

thoreldan SG

u should learn to be numb to rejections when asking a girl out during the wooing process Smile
just keep on trying , cheers

Ayukat SG

I don’t like your language. What do you mean by ” get tis girl i like? ” Girls are human too. They are not toys, you don’t own them.

sgboy2004 SG

aiyo, not all england so powderful mah, not like some pple who are apt to use bombastic words mah... mi o level nia, not easy to express miself at times...

sometimes it is our language nia lor, so no need to be upset abt it, maybe just help them to rephrase it like... "woo this girl i like" Very Happy

Mr. Green

boariggy SG

Correct.

thomas_the_devils SG

but then if u contact her everytime..wont she feel fedup with this?

X k SG

haha me also abit same like u - liked a girl for few months but in the end gave up for a few reasons
1) She got bf
2) I still must reconfirm what kind of girls i like and whether i would be ready to go into a serious relationship Rolling Eyes

watdoido SG

Hurt as i already am, i would still take yr criticism. Sori if my language offended anyone, it certainly wasn't meant to be put in tat context. Pls accept my sincerest of apologises and hopefully give me some advise. Thanks Sad

Devil1976 SG

You can try? Just understand that some things can't be forced...

Yunhaier SG

If a simple rejection for a date could make you die in some sense - I suggest you give up now because you will probably die further in your attempt to chase her.

Come on! Improve mindset and gather some strength in yourself.

Don't ask for dates if she don't feel comfortable with you, instead channel focus on trying to know her as a close friend or divide stress through group outing. (Although impact of group outing usually cannot make it also - unless you treasure chance within the outing)

Cheers

BoA_fan SG

u like in the same situation as me leh but i really dunno wat to tell u. Maybe juzx try to ask her out again next week and see wat happens

X k SG

Dont confess after u know her for a short time(as in few days or wks unless u are sure she is already attracted by u). Instead of asking her out and sending all those flowers and gifts, u shld rather take a look at the mirror.
Now dont misunderstand me, what i meant was that u shld change the way you portray yourself in front of her. If you buy all those gifts and such for girls that will only show that u are trying to supplement your shortcomings with those gifts(obviously showing that u need her - which is what girls dont like)
What you shld do is to let her feel attracted to you(teasing is a good way). ANd NEVER TRY TO IMPRESS A GIRL. JUST BE YOURSELF.
And 1 last thing - girls like to feel challenged. For example if a girl is pretty/beautiful, she is being pampered with attention from lots of guys. If you do the same as other guys do(that is embracing her beauty by buying her gifts) you would be boring to her(becos she gets it everytime). What u shld instead is to challenge her beauty (e.g by forging ignorance about her beauty or feel normal or not attracted by her beauty). She would feel challenged and find you interesting becos u react different from other guys.
^-^