Originally posted by zhaozhilong:
Wei you people really so young lah! No experience.
If you really like her but suspect that she already has a bf,
[b]DONT EVER ASK WHETHER SHE IS ATTACHED OR NOT!
Why? Because:
Asking her whether she has a bf is like "show hand" in poker.
Leaves no turning point/chance. She must either say yes or no. If
she says yes, then it is very difficult for you two to continue
developing the relationship.
Most probably she is already having doubts about her current bf but
NOT YET ditched him. So she is making herself semi-available to
YOU. If she eventually feels that you two can become a nice couple
(you pass), she will ditch her current bf.
So DONT ASK. Just "xin1 zi1 du4 ming2" (heart know stomach
understand). If you ask, then it is like closing the door to her
liao.
Ok? 
p/s: Even if you are 100% sure that she is not attached, also DONT
ASK. Because if her first impression of you is not good, she might
just bluff and say that she is attached. Then what do you think you
can do? Never ask. Then the game can go on. Maybe she will like you
afterwards. [/b]
Different people have different expectation of a
'relationship'....
It all depends on what kinda 'relationship' you want or what kinda
'game' you wanna play? 