Originally posted by Yunhaier:
The problem with couples is that they always feel
that speaking would be worst than not talking when in fact they are
the one putting the barrier themselves. If you Ended-up-worst than
communicating, it can only be attribute to two factors:
I) Wrong use of tact in communication. In communicate, we achieve
mutual solution or what Organizational Behaviour calls it win-win
solution. In love, yes - acceptance and compromising. Tone of
speech, emotions and temper has to be in check.
II) When one side refuse to speak. Communication can only happens
in pair. You can't speak to yourself ya?
One proven fact in all relationship studies is that, most problems
origin from non-communication. Sure, few critical issues in love
needs more than just plain communication - but certainly without
them, you are bound to inflict fractures all over your
relationship. And when you both panic and wishes to talk because
the relationship is so badly damaged - you both [b]never knew where
to start the repair. 
Some objective of communication is to to understand, place empathy
and seek preception/feelings/thoughts/etc from the other party. The
more we learn about our personal problems, the more we can see
solutions to it. And when both side tries to look for solution -
the more effective our solutions is.
Cheers[/b]
Hmm... Though I don't quite agree on your main idea, what you've
said do make much points...
