Originally posted by SlkyLucifer:
I wrote an article on dating gals based on a investor
approach two years back, read the extracts:
I have people telling me that they date
exclusively, meaning that they only date one at a time and held the
strong belief of faithfulness to their girlfriend/boyfriend. If
only their partner think the same as they do, then I have nothing
more to say. Love is just like the stock market, fluctuating every
single minute unpredictably.
Like an investor who include many
different financial securities in his portfolio to protect himself
against market risks. An individual can too consider a few
potential boyfriends/girlfriends on a dating list so that when a
relationship with any of them sours, you still have another to fall
back on.
But all these require a lot of time
and effort since you will not be devoting your energy on only one
person but two or even more. In addition, more financial resources
have to be pooled to sustain this course of action in the long
run.
[b]Remember this, when it comes to
boy-girl relationship, it is not worthwhile to give your all to one
party without knowing whether he/she is willing to do the same in
return. Even if your partner is faithful to you now does not
necessarily imply that he/she will still remain true in the days to
come. The future holds too many uncertainties.
It really saddens me whenever I see
suicide, assault and even murder cases resulting from failed
romances. If only these jilted has-beens?have an alternative, they
would not have taken it so hard. So do you understand the
advantages of diversification now? 
So what's the big deal of liking
two gals or guys at the same time? In the past, I even dated three
gals simultaneously to protect myself from being hurt. 2 Hearts,
you are doing it right, Just Bring It! [/b]
Frankly speaking, I dun care what u write on or about. But have
u given tots to what u write? Have u given tots on ppl and their
feelings?
There is nothing wrong with liking a few girls or guys BUT when u
are with one of them in a relationship, and stil u go out loving
other girls or guys, isnt tt betrayal to ur gf/bf?
We are toking about ppl's feelings here and not a piece of business
deal. No matter how u feny it, we humans have feelings and we CAN
get hurt by betrayal.
In a relationship, whether its worth it to give ur all is up to the
individual and the situation. If everyone doesnt give their all,
where do we find true love? Where do we see the maricles that
happen in a relationship at times? Where do we see a bf doing
something to make his gf feel better at times of sadness? We can
never predict the future and what happens. How do we know the
future days are full of uncertainties? We live in the present, not
the past, not the future. And I think we should treasure the
present and not think of what uncertainties in the future. We do
plan ahead and at times our plan meets with some problems. But we
also fight to overcome them and not just say I am facing
uncertainties in the future so i dun wan to commit to
anything.
There are failed relationships that lead to undesired endings. A
diversion is a way to avoid such endings but it is not solving the
root of the problem. People are emotion filled and at times when
they come to a cruel fact too harsh for them to accept, something
happenes. No doubt u may say he/she is silly but at least he/she
faces the problems and made a decision although its not good. I am
not encouraging anything here, i am just making a point. A
diversion is only a way to delay the problem.
Imagine urself in a relationship with a girl who u really love and
u cant live without. And suddenly she turns out to be togther with
many other guys. How will u feel? U can tell others whats the big
deal but when it lands on u, will u feel the same thing? What if
that person turns out to be ur husband or wife? U protect urself
from being hurt by not hurting others. U DUN protect urself by
doing things u dun wan them to do to u and hurting them in the
process. If u do tt, one day u will incur their wrath and
ultimately, the one whos hurt the most is urself.
Treat others the way u want them to treat u. 2 Hearts, my advices
are aready up there. Its up to u to take them or leave them.
