Originally posted by Yunhaier:
Trust me, his case ain't uncommon - I know of people
real life who behave the exact same way, in the end, they all got
burn. Actually I didn't want to post to lecture or anything because
'dao bu dong, bu xiang wei mo.' I may be acting this way if I was
evil or anyone of you here...
But in the end, where do you see yourself go? Nothing. Aimless.
Circles.
Lucifer? He has used this nick because it display signs of evil -
someone who needs to link himself with evil because he feels that
what he are doing is vicious, vile and the dark side is
luring.
What financial approach, what maintaining more choices - it is
basically CloUdiSm Remix III stated LXB Model - a model that people
would want to retain to protect themselves from being hurt.
Ironically, people who tries to maintain this model (namely to have
choices to fall back in case one failed him), [b]are moving towards
the direction of being hurt - like moth to flame, knowing
that it would be burn. None of the people I knew who maintain LXB
model ever succeed and live happily ever after with that - in fact,
deep inside their soul, they are suffering as well.
So that excuse is invalid; psychologically, you feel
that you have to power to hurt your partners - but what you are
doing is wounding yourself.
You portray yourself as someone who can navigate emotions and
practice good controls. This is difficult but possible - but
beneath the facade we all have, is a quiet truth of yourself. There
is a space, you tried to fill them up with all sorts of thingy -
nothing could fit.
Failed romance lead to depression? Isn't this an obvious truth that
you are someone who had given and hurt in the past. Ego build up
and you tried all sorts of means to avoid landing in such
situations again.
You thought of yourself - not realising why a relationship has
failed. It only reminds you of certain pain. You dump the lessons
and decide to follow a route, thinking that
you are invulnerable to emotional wounds forever.
P.S: I was once like you and could pursue such course of action.
Not to worry, I am not trying to tell you to change or anything
because only enlightenment could instill wisdom in you. Like I say,
dao bu tong, bu xiang wei mo. So are you trying to convince others
that this method of yours works... or are you trying to
convince yourself? 
Cheers [/b]
Arhhh.....the essay which explained my thoughts.
Yunnie...you really know me. 
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