What to do, help~

beagle SG

for 4 yrs i have nvr been in contact with any girls at all. now that i am going to poly soon i dunnoe what to do. what if i dun fit in? i also feel tt i look like crap (honestly) and will not get a gf Sad help me Twisted Evil

amaro SG

4 years no girls?? Monk?!!!!!
Very Happy

the Bear SG

like what i said in shoutbox...

don't worry about it!!

just believe in yourself... ladies are probably like you, just as shy and all that.. Smile

be nice, be yourself, be respectful and courteous to the ladies Smile

and don't worry about anything, just be friends with them.. and think of them not as ladies but as friends...

you'll be fine..

most of all, have some confidence in yourself! Smile

the Bear SG

this is where people with real problems come to ask for help...

if you have nothing constructive to say, don't make things worse?

beagle SG

Embarassed haiz, maybe i need to go some kinda course lol

Dj_Shadow SG

Hey, Look at me... For 16 years, i have no galfren Embarassed and i'm still surviving... Razz Relax guy, Blend in to the surrounding and make more frens so u will fit in... Wink And Like Bear said... Have some Confidence in urself... Very Happy

beagle SG

didn’t need confidence in 4 yrs. now how to have ? u din have gal frens, but did u noe any? cos i din even noe one till few days ago on irc when i went to chat for the first time?lol

Dj_Shadow SG

I'm more worse than u... I'm fat and I'm ugly[think so...] Sad
I got like gal but when i told her about my feelings for her, it's like we never talk already... Maybe once in a blue moon then we talk... Crying or Very sad It's my fault coz i did not take the initiative when she's near but now... Sad Try making frenz with the people in this forum... They r really friendly and they can help u regain ur confidence slowly... Wink

beagle SG

die la me i die better

ditzy SG

I've got nothing else to add after all that me and nelstar had just told you in shoutbox.

Its your life man, I'm not obliged to interfere or change it if you deem what you're doing right.

Last words, good luck and regards. Neutral

AdAptAliS SG

I wasn't around to read what they wrote in the shoutbox so i'm sorry if i repeat.

I think this is just a case of over-worrying. You said you never contacted any girl in 4 years. I think it doesn't matter. People who attend boys school from pri 1 to sec 4 likely to not interact with girls other than on the streets as well. And then they proceed to JC or Poly or ITE coping fine with the opposite gender as well as their academics. It's like when you never cycled for 4 years, you just need time to get use to the bike again and you'll feel as natural as 4 years ago. You wouldn't actually forget how to cycle.

I think you should just wait until term starts and see how things go. If by then, it really happens, it's still not too late to consult others on what you can do to solve it.

I believe being yourself will be the best option to try to fit in. Just like how you've done it when you graduated from primary school. Don't worry too much. It's always hard to adapt to a new environment. Just know that you're not alone. All the rest probably feels the same way as well regarding the difficulty of 'fitting in'.

Best of luck.

M©+square SG

Wanna meet me up someday.....
If you're really a crap then lets get some stuff changed.
If you're lookin fine....then we'll have some practical test. Twisted Evil

I'm serious, if you're interested....Private MSG me. Cool

Danisdead101times SG

not to worry...i believe that one day u will get to have a gf...some girls don't go for looks...what is important is that your character must be good...

beagle SG

bismarck SG

dun worry, when everyone gathers for a class the first time, everyone will be very quiet. save for a few who are either sec sch friends/ 3mth jc friends or just friends.

so what u shld do on first day first 1hr. smile...go with a light bag say hi although they may not be yr classmates but coursemates. easiest because everyone will be open to knowing everyone. go as a group,anywhere///

beagle SG

.. i think when i say hi they will all just … look at me n walk off

the Bear SG

then do it again!

M©+square SG

You see.........boy. The fact that you're really a crap is when you admit that yourself. Gals read thru that instantly. (That's what they're good for!)
Looks aint everything. STop thinking like a typical guy and have some style can ya?

See...it's simple.
Guys are attracted by physical attributes(Primary)
Women are attracted by personality and Character(Primary). Looks are Secondary.
So if you can crash this mental block and promise yourself to stop being a crap like you do right now.
Improve on what you lack....well....i can tell you that your life will start havin colours.

IF YOU STILL THINK YOU'RE A CRAP AND NOT GOOD LOOKIN,
email me your pic - [email protected]
or show me your friendster picture.

If i agree that you're a crap...then the deal is off. Okay?
Brace up Buddy.

Cheers
Neutral

sgboy2004 SG

beagle dun bluff lah... u yandao lah

Mr. Green

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beagle SG

I not yandao ... ...... and if i'm not mistaken, if u meet a girl somewhere, perhaps in ur CCA, and u ask her for her no. or out for a date, the first thing she will look at are ur looks. if u dun appeal to her she wouldn't even consider that, and if she doesn't cosdier those stuff then she will nvr get to noe me better, and thereofre it seems from here tt looks are primary, before advancing to personality and style, which are secondary.