Love?
Hmm...
1) You feel jealous when he talks to another gal
2) You wanted his attention so much
3) You feel upset when he never gives you anything for your
birthday
4) You feel like hurting him in any possible way you can but can't
bring yourself to do it when you felt hurt
5) You do all those small little things for him coz you care for
him, even if he never shows any appreciation but you still do them
willingly
pt 1:i dont really agree that love means u will be jealous when ur
lover talks to another gal....thats more of being possessive. it
has got some love but it is more of a human instinct that u want to
keep your lover.
pt2: need attention is more of reciprocation of your love. it falls
under "expectation". you must understand the need for personal
privacy / breathing space. dont keep bugging.
pt3: when he/she fails ur expectation of esp he/she forgets ur
bdae...it doesnt mean he/she dont love u anymore. sometimes it
could be due to hectic life schedule etc. anyway this is more like
'love expectation' again. not love alone.
as for pt 4...prob it is a personal reaction that differs fr
everyone.
pt 5 is correct for me.
i think there's a need to understand more abt the real love
concept.
i noticed a pattern: usually when people naturally understand the
meaning of true love; or broke up with someone they really loved.
they will take a very long time to find their next lover. true love
take some time to heal...esp it is something so precious and u are
not fated to have it forever. they either have a true lover or else
none of it. i have some friends who have empty love lives coz they
want to reserve it for the ultimate special one.
as for those who experienced not true love or surface love...they
get into another r/ship faster.
becoz love is something not just surface...like having some funny
expectations etc. it integrates into their lives and affects their
thinking and consideration for the lover seamlessly. it like
something like pt 5 which u do sth but dont expect anything in
return. basically there is no hard and fast rule to detect if u are
in real love... but when naturally u know u are doing for that
special one...thats it...very simple.
i shld say true love also means sacrifice. an example will be
avoiding being the 3rd party but still love the attached person
very much...and biting the bullet to see that person getting
married. coz u know it will benefit that person...it takes an
enormous energy to do this.
hope these help. 
