can give some suggestions?

last SG · 2004-04-02T03:48:30+00:00

no advice is too late for me. let's hear your frank thoughts.

boy in blues SG

if you have a close friend who wants to start a BGR now. but you feel that as friend still ok, but to go steady, somehow don’t click. then how to tell the person without hurting the person’s feelings? guys and gals here, please give advice. quite urgent. thanks.

weidev SG

tell her u r gay... Mr. Green

True_Xerion SG

tell it as it is? after all, good frens shld have no problems communicating clearly? she shld understand if she really is a good friend Smile

TX

boy in blues SG

thanks for replying. but what if she says to you, "please can we give it a chance to start and see how it goes? why can't you give me a chance? what is it about me you cannot accept in a BGR partner?"

then what will you say?

boy in blues SG

thanks for replying. but please offer constructive advice. try again.

[ r 0 y s t 0 n ] SG

Hmm.. Give it a try and see if it works? No harm wat..

weidev SG

well... tell her tat u r nt ready to get into a r/s nw la... maybe due to studies... Mr. Green

boy in blues SG

thanks for replying. but what if 2 girls request this of you? what will you tell the girl you need to reject? you can't say it's because you are choosing the other 1. because the rejected girl will still come back and ask you why you can't give her a chance but instead gave to the successful girl.

True_Xerion SG

ok i'm not too good at these things haha, best i would tell her is the truth and that u'd rather keep and friend than try n then lose both friend & stead ..... hope this makes sense haha.

boy in blues SG

thanks for giving a better suggestion. i knew you could do better than that. what if she's aware of your active and multi-tasking lifestyle and that cannot be a valid reason. but it's just a matter of whether you want to go BGR with her or not? then what will you say?

[ r 0 y s t 0 n ] SG

So you are rejecting da girl now because you think you two are better off friends or because you have 2 girls and you have to choose?

Tell her nicely that you don't love her if you really don't.. Because forced will never have happiness.. Wink

I am no love expert too.. Just my opinions.. Wink

True_Xerion SG

wah now become 2 girls? u so yandao ahh? Embarassed post pic 4 us to see leh .... Cool

TX

boy in blues SG

thanks. you don't need to be too good at these things for me to appreciate your well-meaning advice. but what if she asks you why you can't have her as BGR partner? so that she can go ahead and change those things. what if she's quite persistant and determined. then what will you say to her?

boy in blues SG

nah. i am nowhere near as yandao as you. but what if those 2 girls are after you? what will you say to that poor girl you need to reject?

True_Xerion SG

i so ugly, if got 2 grrls go after me i go buy 4D + toto + horse + whatever, all sure win wan! Mr. Green

boy in blues SG

what if she asks you why you don't love her. she promises that for you, she can willingly change for you. she won't feel forced at all. will that make you accept her?

[ r 0 y s t 0 n ] SG

So now still have da 2 girls issue not? Neutral

Love or don't love sometimes can't explain ba.. Feeling not there change or not also no use.. Tell her she will not find happiness in da relationship if YOU really don't love her lor.. I am sure she can find her guy in time to come..

boy in blues SG

so far, i can see you are

1) quite helpful
2) humble
3) and have a healthy sense of humor.

you won't have 2 girls going after you. but maybe 20?

boy in blues SG

got 2 girls. but neither of them know of the others intention. partly because they don't contact much. but i think your reply to that girl should best not involve the other girl. keep it less complicated.

[ r 0 y s t 0 n ] SG

Yeah.. But maybe sometimes being honest is da best policy? Haha.. Wink