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dreamybear SG

i noe tis guy whom is my current bf for quite some time liao.. but sometimes, i really dunno if he have feeling for mi or is he juz trying to make mi happy only.. the things we have been through is quite a lot… we went through 2 break off which in e end didnt succeed due to some factor.. izzit fate that we still have not reach e stage that we should part? sometime i really dunno wat he is tining in his mind… he is e type that wun say out his feeling.. but sometime i can feel it from the thing he did for mi… now a days, we dun tok as often as we used to on phone( last time we talk everyday on phone for hrs..) but we see each other more often n we do things like cooking a meal or watch tv wif his mummy instead of going out for movie n things like tat… some friends says tat my relationship wif him have settled down.. but still why do i have e weird feeling that he might leave mi any time n he might not have feelings for mi… m i tinking too much? can anyone pls help mi….

sgboy2004 SG

there are different phases in a love relationship...guess the honeymoon phase is over...

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sam0310 SG

"settled oledi" is one way to describe it. coz most guys dunno how to add spice into the r/s after they got their "game". see, most guys're like hunters, once they got their "game", the fun and challenge end; they assume the game will probably not get away, so it's gonna be stable and they can take things easy (or easier). so some of them take things for granted that the "game" is theirs, safe in their hands, just need to do some follow-up every now and then, not painstaking meticulous care and concern anymore...

of coz this is the general case, and may not apply to ALL guys... Cool

Yunhaier SG

According to CloUdiSm III remix - Eco-love cycle, relationship don't stay stagnant even though people may feel stagnant. Relationship rise and fall periodically.

Your cycle has probably reached growth. The relationship is growing, but at a slower pace. It could be near the third stage, in maturity, but I don't think it is there NOW, but would be there very soon.

You must understand a trade off between meeting often and talking on the phone. A couple must understand that conversation is like resources - the more you communicate for the day due to meeting, the less you will talk on the phone, for that day.

What you are trying to do is to prolong honeymoon period or stimulate richer growth - You may like to share this issue with your bf, express to him your desire to spend quality private, personal, 1v1 life with him on good regular occasions.

Don't be silly - he won't leave you LIKE THAT lar. Don't be paraniod. Govern your relationship well. This is nothing wrong - more communication is needed. Idea

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BrUtUs SG

no need tink so much, if u hapi can liao…

Devil1976 SG

You're probably thinking too much? Can be unhealthy for your relationship ya know? Wink

Think it's probably the change in style of your relationship which you might not be getting used to?

Whether things would stabilise or not would depend ALOT on the mentality of the 2 individuals and also some external factors...

At the current stage of 'change', it'll be unwise to get too paranoid over things because as much as you might be adjusting to things, your bf might be doing the same... Give the 2 of you some time to adjust and the benefit of doubt? Wink