It's not generation gap - its more like different frequency and
wavelength. In the begining, you feel that it was all fun and cute
of her, but with time, it gets annoying because she cannot give you
the kind of mental and emotional frequency you should have when you
already secure a relationship with her.
Unless CloUdiSm remix II - Beta law: communication, in short,
states that difference is wavelenght will repel partners even
before chase begins.
Then in the first place why did you chose her? So you didn't knew
her enough as a friend to understand if she is really suitable for
you - this is a killer. Had a good friend who suffered this problem
as well - thought that love could conquered all, but when he was in
the relationship, everything seemed different.
I suggest that you need more than just your normal talk. It has to
be a serious, no-nonsense kind of soul talk. This talk has nothing
to do with telling her stop being childish, etc because surface
problems will remain unless the roots is tackled. Go there and
start your conversation. Ask about how she sees this relationship;
your love; you; what defines them; etc.
Then you will discover many things you didn't knew.
P.S: How long you knew her before getting together? less than 3
months? How long have you both been together?
Cheers
i agree wif ya 1st para, ever since we started the mental level
we speak to each other is getting further n further defined. I
admit we are thinkin at diff. levels.
We really hitted it off pretty well last year, she was intro by
another fren of mine, its been already 6 months. Things were pretty
sweet for the 1st inital 3 months (honeymoon period).
As to ur no nonsense kinda talks yep i did that too, i read up on
alot of relationship books on dealing with a partner whose maturity
level is much lower. but that didnt work out, it always ends in her
sobbing and me coaxing her. She says she treats this seriously. And
i wanna believe her, but sometimes her actions really casts doubts
into my mind.
