Originally posted by Yunhaier:
A good effort on your part and continue
them.
Her action never says that she don't love you - it's merely her
personality that 'spice' up your relationship. There are three
things you have to do:
I) [b]Recongise the land mines; namely the areas where you
will blow your top when she persist in her behavior during such
situations/timing/events/etc. She has to know, so she will know
when and where to avoid stepping onto your temper.
II) Realise that changing a person will not work, because in the
end, she will not be herself and you will lose feelings gradually.
Don't attempt change - attempt improving. She has to know
specifically the issue before you can exercise improvement upon
that area. By telling her 'xxxxxxx' will not work - guide
her, the way you want her to learn.
III) Learn to beauty of compromising. If you
noticed, II and III has to work hand-in-hand. Her behavior may have
flaws, but so are yours. Patience is the key to these three points
and with patience, you will develop a kind of compromising.
P.S: She still loves you - that's most important. Think about it.
Cheers[/b]
yup i admit we are all not perfect, no one can say that they are
always rational in thinking all the time. Humans have emotions and
alot of times we are governed by them, thats when the line between
right and wrong gets blurred.
Here are 2 examples I encountered with her over the weekend.
Eg.1 We were watching the Taiwan presidential protest, I commented
that those protesters didn't know that they were doing their
economy more harm than good by their massive demonstrations
(business point of view) she argued back that the people needed
change as their current president isnt a good president and said
they were doing the right thing in campaigning. (sympathetic and
emotional p.o.v) this sparked off a heated debate. Needless to say
she got very worked up, kicking up a fuss on how I failed to
understand the feelings of the average taiwanese, whilst for me I
was taken aback on how emotionally charged she got just from
watching a protest thats a few thousand kilometres away. I backed
off before it esculated into yet another arguement.
Eg. 2 This time we were watching the Taiwanese talk show Generation
(the guy with a crow on his shoulder) topic of the show was "People
who 2-time" In this programme people who 2-timed came out to be
asked questions by people who have been 2-timed before. Of course
temperatures raised as the people who have been cheated blasted the
perpertators. My gf too joined in the fray of openly bashing them,
I was once again just giving the 2-timers a the benefit of the
doubt by reasoning with my gf that might be underlying causes to
what they have done. (BTW the 2-timer was a guy) I thought i spoked
in a very diplomatic way, but my gf didnt think so, she snapped
back and thought i was supporting him and asked "why? u wanna
2-time oso izit?" I kept quiet and let out a huge *sigh.
Perhaps it is her teenage angst? too emotionally charged? I've been
trained to question everything I see and always look at things that
go against the flow of people's view its in my job to do so.
perhaps leaving this trait back in the office is the thing to
do.
As to what Yun said, thanks for the advice! I like the idea of
"improving her" instead of "changing her" sure sounds very
politically correct!!! 
