what attract guys?

shinta SG

for guys between the age of 23 and 26:

what kind of females do u go for when it comes to gf material....?

i kinda like this guy, he's 25, 5 years older.... but not sure if things will work out....

he ain't that free like guys my age, still in sch and such...

ditzy SG

Definitely not the havoc types. Someone who can talk to me about everything, i mean everything. Wink

thoreldan SG

girls with their own thinking, not eveything 'ok lor'
of course looks still important

shinta SG

juz that?

wat abt stuff like must understand that u're bz wid work, cannot accompany her everyday that kind of thing?

or must be independent cannot cling to u like a leech...blah blah blah....

shinta SG

hw important are looks?

very important? must be very chiio? or u see liao shun yan can ler?

figure count towards looks?

thoreldan SG

well i believe that no man, regardless of age group, world want a leech-type campanion

ditzy SG

Such stuff is build upon in a relationship. It's not a preexquisite, or a 'preset' kinda thingie. It is totally dependent on individual.

ditzy SG

paiseh Embarassed

ditzy SG

In time to come, you'll realise looks isn't the main factor in maintaining a relationship or getting into one. Just my opinion.

www SG

decent look and brain.

btw, why dont u ask him? after all, everyone has their own preference. segmentation doesnt work in this aspect.

Bontakun SG

GF material...? Umm... some1 who can chat wif bah? 20++ liao leh... no need havoc so much liao lah... dat was for da teens to early 20s lah... now da time to TINK properly loh... oei... U said GF material hor? forget da above part... Juz enjoy each other company can liao...

shinta SG

hmm.....i kinda tink of myself as a super possessive freak....but no one seems to realise that...and i wanna contain that part of me...

no one likes to hav a possessive bf or gf rite?

it's like if we're in this together....i want it to go a long way rather than the kind that ppl my age are havin...quite like a waste of time u see....

but juz wanna look out for sth in general...wat guys of this age grp would not like....and see if i'm like that...and also if it's my personality or mentality or sth...

houdini SG

Hmm I guess the girl must be understanding and able to give and take when it comes to different situations ..

Understanding and trust being very important points , I know of some girls who flare up just because the guy didn't inform them of where they were going ..

Of course, being able to share common hobbies and likings is a great plus point too .. Very Happy

www SG

its hard to benchmark like this.

once again, i emphasize the importance of personal preference. one 25 years old guy might prefer a girl who is demure while the other 25 years old would see a havoc girl as a challenge.

just behave in the manner most people won't dislike (e.g. spoilt brat, petty and etc) and leave it to him to choose.

alternatively, ask him yourself.

scarly after all these surveying and u are simply not his type or he doesnt fancy your appearance. kinda waste of effort, isnt it?

boy in blues SG

best if cute cute. another prerequisite, she gotta have faith in my commitment to her. i have other platonic female friends with whom i sometimes go out without her. but we only go public places. and she knows all of them. i relate my outing experiences to her openly so she never has to ask and sound probing. and she doesn't get jealous easily. same goes for her guy friends. i trust her restraint and virtue. bottomline is, we value our old friends and dun wanna let bgr affect our social life. if we tried to restrict each others freedom, we might end up doing things on the sly. i prefer being open about everything so no excuse for deceit.

shinta SG

that is a horrible thought! i dread to think that way….anyway, even if i do not appeal to him, at least, i’d have gotten rid of some disgusting traits….hmm….good rite?

shinta SG

hmm...i noe that in a relationship, there should always be trust...but i get paranoid very easily....and also very sensitive... Sad sometimes i'd think abt things that weren't there...and it kinda gets on ppl's nerves won't they?

and would u guys go into a relationship wid someone u dun hav feelings for? if yes, would u try to make it work? or juz let nature take it's course?

Bontakun SG

Possessive is... ok. But cannot be like those control freak as to like... da BF cannot go out wif gal frens, cannot call them, cannot sms them, delete phone numbers, cannot bio at other gals when out together, vice versa...

If liddat har, aint da BF being unfilial? Coz he cannot "bio" his mum, cannot go out wif her, cannot call her, cannot sms her?

Now U peeps tell me, how r U gonna live wif dat?

shinta SG

wow! heng i not this horrible....

hmm...come to tink of it, i'm not as possessive as wat i thot i am...cos....i dun mind him calling or smsin other gals, or even go out wid them....but it would be good if he could lemme noe in adv, that he's gg out wid a female fren or sth....cos..it'd be pretty awkward if i bump into him on the streets rite? imagination runs wild...

boy in blues SG

1 thing's for sure. you dun wanna make him fear revealing things to you. and you can only do that by being less offensive. feelings can always be developed. but must allow nature and time to take its course.