It' best to wait for the one you want than settle for the one
available.
Best to wait for the love that you love than one's who
around.
Best to wait for the right one because life's too short to be
wasted on just someone.
An African proverb states, "Before you get married, keep both eyes
open.... and after you marry, close one eye."
Before you get involve and make commitment to someone, don't let
lust, desperation immaturity, ignorance pressure from others or a
low self-esteem make you blind to warning signs.
Keep your eyes open, and don't fool yourself that you can change
someone or that what you see as faults aren't really that
important.
Once you decide to commit to someone, over time, their flaws,
vulnerabilities, pet peeves, and differences will become more
obvious.
If you love your mate and want the relationship to grow and evolve,
you will have to learn how to close one eye and not let every
little thing bother you.
You and your mate have many different expectations, emotional
needs, values, dreams, weaknesses, and strengths.
Neither one of you are perfect, but are you perfect for each
other?
Do you bring out the best in each other?
Do you compliment and compromise with each other, or do you
compete, compare and control?
What do you bring to the relationship?
Do you bring past relationships, past hurts, past mistrust, past
pain?
You can't take someone to altar because you wan to alter
them.
You can't make someone love you, or make someone stay.
If you develop self-esteem, spiritual discernment, and "a life",
you won't find yourself making someone else responsible for your
happiness or responsible for your pain.
Manipulation, control, jealousy, neediness, and selfishness are not
the ingredient of a thriving, healthy, loving and lasting
relationship.
Seeking status, sex, and security are the wrong reason to be in a
relationship.
what keeps a strong relationship?
- Communication
- Intimacy
- A sense of humor
- Sharing household task
- Daily exchange (a meal, shared activity, a hug, a call,
a touch, a note)
- sharing common goals and interests
- giving each other space to grow without feeling insecure
- giving each other a sense of belonging and assurances
and commitment
If these qualities are missing, the relationship will erode as
resentment, withdrawal, abuse, neglect, dishonesty and pain replace
the passion.
"As long as we have memories, yesterday remains. As long as we have
have hope, tomorrow awaits."
Love is when you take away the feeling, the passion, and the
romance in the relationship and find out that you still care for
that person.
Love is being able to walk arm in arm.... even when you don't see
eye to eye!
Never say goodbye when you still want to try. Never give up when
you still feel you can take it. Never say you no longer love a
person when you can't let go.
If you love someone, tell them,
for hearts are often broken by words left unspoken
