Hiyah Sonic : )
Wat I see here, is a clash of opinions, & both coming from
different perspectives. Mebbi I can help determine where both of u
r coming from, then perhaps u guys can work out a common grd?
His perspective:
1. I haf shown u my letters to my penpal. So wat if she's a girl?
It doesn't mean I love her, I love u, & if I din love u, I
wldn't haf shown u the letters I'd written in order to reassure u
& let u trust me.
2. I've done other thgs to the best of my abilities to assure u of
my love. Wat r u jealous abt?
3. It's Not my fault tt u can't join me on the trip, I'm Not going
there specifically to see her. I juz happen to be going on a tour
to HK, & since I'm there, there's Nothg wrong wif catching up
wif a fren.
Her perspective:
1. I noe she's only a fren & ur penpal, but I can't help
feeling jealous cosh I'm a woman, & No woman likes to share her
guy (meaning, romantically).
2. I noe I meet u ev. day, but tt doesn't mean I dowan to hear tt u
love only me once in a while. And altho I noe I meet u ev. day
& tt u love me, it doesn't hurt for u to pamper me once in a
while by writing somethg to me, even if it's juz a card.
3. I keep thinking tt u wanna go on the trip cosh u wanna see her,
despite u going wif ur folkz, cosh I'm woman, & I can't help
feeling jealous.
Having finished tt, here's wat u can do:
Meet her for a heart-to-heart & explain the different
perspectives tt haf caused the misunderstanding. Address her fears
(remember: She's only behaving so unreasonably cosh she loves u
& is terrified of losing u) & reassure her of ur
love.
Perhaps having been together for so long, both of u haf taken thgs
for granted. Tok this out, & try to come up wif ways together
for both of u to re-inject the spark tt has gone missing in ur
r'ship.
Instead of juz meeting ev. day, why Not arrange to go on a special
date? It doesn't hafta be a special occasion, juz go on a date
simply because : ) Whether it's a candlelit dinner (@ a restaurant
or prepared by both of u wld be great) complete wif a nice card, or
a nite @ the movies followed by supper & discussion of the
farnie thgs in the movie, it all depends on u. Shower her wif more
love & attn, cosh it seems tt she wld lurve to be pampered by u
: )
The r'ship has been going on for 5 yrs, does it mean enuff to u to
wan to make it work? If so, do try to tok thgs out wif ur girl
nicely & calmly. U'll be surprised @ how happee she might be
after : )
Gd luck!
RP
