a 'HUSBAND' with no future??

LoveisLove SG

my bf and i together for nearly 2 years... we love each other a lot.. but the thing is he have no future... which mean he have no plans for his future and he only have "N" cert. i m worry for our future!!!
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FireIce SG

working?
got savings?
got CPF?

LoveisLove SG

no.. currenty serving ns

FireIce SG

hmm....ok....still quite some way to......
im sure if he is determined, he is able to get a stable job and have some savings.....
perhaps can upgrade himself....take part-time class...

wat about urself?
u working and helping out with the expenses

im not saying u shd be "feeding" him.....since u are worrying, might as well u do ur part for the rship and take some pressure off him.......at the same time encourage him....

LoveisLove SG

i hope he will get a stable job too.. oh no i haven start working yet still upgrading myself.. i m a student, business studies.
maybe still young for our future, i just worry..

FireIce SG

it's good to be prepared.......
yup, u might be still young but if u are sure he is the one then us shd have some plans now....
in such a competitive environment like singapore, it's better to some qualifications.....if dun have, just have to work double hard loh.....
N levels does not mean no future....just a bit difficult and walk longer way than others....
if there's a will, there's a way....

LoveisLove SG

i think he is the one...
but i can stand a guy tat no futute..
he is the guy that happy go lucky..
i am the gal who look for happiness..
may be i ask too much??

FireIce SG

u might be thinking too much lah.......still young now...man man lai......

but u shd oso be understanding.....ur "happiness" isit material needs? do u insist he earn X amount of salary then u will feel "happiness" with him?

try to have a bit of savings now.....cos when he finish NS, he might not be able to get a job immediately....so the savings can tide over tt period.....

have u ever talked to him about this?
maybe he oredi have some plans?

LoveisLove SG

no... not tat..
i have talk to him.. he jus say he wan to concentrate on his ns..
our savings?? we often go clubbing..

FireIce SG

then cut down on that.....this type of thing can control one.....for a better future.......

SmallPanda SG

What? You have no future either but is he complaining?
He is better off dumping trash like you. Rolling Eyes

abterror SG

wat is the defination of happiness tat u pursuade?
yes of cos love is the primary element to start a relationship.
but security is another aspect of life many do seek for.
noone wanna worry for the availablilty of cash.
it is good tat u have think ahead.
but if only one party works hard while the other dun, it is not going to work out.
one will wear out one day.
hopefully both of u can make future together.

KamenRider SG

its too shallow to think only money and certs can bring you happiness or future.

you guys are still not matured enough to talk about marriage and family yet. go build up character and grow up first.

abterror SG

it is one the the basic needs in singapore.
unless u are allow to start a farm here.

I-like-flings(m) SG

ask him to sign on in army lah.. then got future already lor…if he dun want to upgrade or guai guai think about his future.. u confirm no future one lor. haha..so ask him when he want to marry u lor.. haha and plan lor

www SG

romance and practicality.

hmm.. i still think bread is more important.

BrUtUs SG

ask him if he ever tot abt the future… encourage him to upgrade.. but dun push too hard, slowly… remember to start saving liao…

RainbowPrincess SG

Hmm, actually, he can try going back to studies... 1 of my frens had an N Level cert too, but he went to Oz, did some studying @ TAFE (sorta like a poly, but less strict), & he did v. well there. Eventually he graduated.

So, Not all is lost. Tok to him abt ur worries, & try to discuss wif him plans & alternatives : )

RP

RainbowPrincess SG

Harsh tone (abit lah Razz ) but really gd advice : )

RP

Forever84 SG

When ladys earn more than men... it never works out
maybe because of guys' ego and stuff