need help again

StarPuppy SG

To those who know my past maybe like ArchAngel Yunhaier and maybe sgboy2004…nm,I will resay it,I used to like this girl,we used to be very good friends but when we when into different class in sec 3,we seem to talk less and sometimes none,I only sms her nowadays..anyway,latetly,she is getting more arrogant,maybe she is always trying to bet the best in her studies,I can’t blame her but she doesn’t sms me much anymore…now I am so pised off her arrogant behaviour that I also don’t contact her anymore,and my care/love for her faded away but I dunno why…I still feel lonely like I need to care for someone and someone to care about me?why do I still have this feeling even when I and her were arguing badly and not talking to each other and now even we “broke” up

Yunhaier SG

That's the problem with people; they are so used to having to stroke other's fur that one day that it has become part of our life. Our relationship is like a conjunction - it links us the minute it begin and fused into our soul.

Are we the same before the relationship? Not likely.

Your situation has two possibility:

I) Reversal psychology. Sometimes, we wanted something so badly, we do the opposite. To people with care, we scold thim (for their own good), though it seemed really hostile.

II) You don't miss her - you simply missed having to love someone. Love has this fault - it make us too sheltered. To feel that we can't walk alone anymore. We are like our own pampered child - the minute our object of affection is gone, we questioned ourselves: so what's next. We long for the 'usual', but what makes you think that the 'radical' isn't good for us? Rolling Eyes

Cheers

WrX_STi SG

its mayb juz the beginning of u feeling towards her arrogant behaviour and i shld say u are currently not use to it. u been msging her for a long time liao and u suddenly not msging u will feel kinda bored in urself.

in the meantime, try to occupy urself with some other thing... =) i hope will help u in 1 way or another..

BrUtUs SG

tink its jz withdrawal symptom... go concentrate on ur studies...

RainbowPrincess SG

StarPuppy,

I wld like to noe ur definition of her "arrogance". Without it, I'm unable to come up wif somethg for u : ) So pls explain?

RP

StarPuppy SG

She really good in her studies and she always comparing marks with other and then if we are really low like 60-below,she wiill tease us,calling us stupid but lately,I been getting lousy marks and now her behaviour is like...when I ask her how is she and she reply tired..and I say is it because study all night..she will reply "siao,study all night,only you will do that"

She wasn't used to be like that,its a sudden change and its been for like 4-5 months and I had enough of her...I tolreated it because I thought she would change but looks like she getting worse...we are more like enemies than friends

<sk> SG

Seems to me that you are like every normal person, everyone needs to feel loved and cared for! '

If your love has faded away from you, then its a good time to move on! You should focus on your studies and concentrate on making yourself happy! Hang out with your pals or form study groups(leaving your ex-beau out)

RainbowPrincess SG

*nodz* Okie, now I understand this more : )

I believe her behaviour is wat's referred to in mandarin as "gou3 yan3 kan4 ren2 di1", whereby she dev's the opp. of inferiority complex --> superiority complex. She probably will surround herself wif only the "best qlty" indivs, who r most probably rich, intelligent, gd-looking or all of the above.

This behaviour may continue thru to her adult life. Even if she changes back to a nice, humble person, it cld take yrs.

Perhaps u might wanna brush up on ur grades, & she'll eventually be curry-favouring u again. During tt time, u cld decide to give her the brush-off (since she's such a shallow person), or u cld decide to accept her again as a fren & forgive her shallowness (which will still be there).

Having someone to love is nice, but let tt someone be special & deserving of u, Not someone who looks down on u : )

RP