I've pondered this over for a few days, cosh I really wanna
help. Even up till now, I can't think of the best solution for u. U
see, if u were in tt situation, I wld be able to advise u. But it's
ur fren, she din come to ask for advice, so it's kinda
different.......
Over the past few days, I'd tried to recall all the thgs I did to
help my frens, or my frens did to help me, & I've compiled the
best.
1. Keep ur fren bz. Post-split, pple tend to think too much &
cry too much whenever they haf free time on their hands. Keep her
occupied, take out her shopping, go to the movies, haf coffee &
pple-watch (this is fun 
), haf gd meals, go for a drink @ a quiet place (I
recommend Oriental Hotel, there's an open area wif a pianist &
someone singing ).
2. Bring her for a makeover, & join in. Both of u can go for a
great haircut/style/perm/rebonding/colour, then head down to MAC
(cosmetics, for the benefit of the guys) @ Tangs. Ask for Lynette
(my recommendation, she's the best, I always go to her) & get
her to give both of u a makeover (only her if u're a guy ). Then, go buy clothes, bags, shoes, hair accessories
(pls hor, if u dun haf the budget, dun go for designer labels
). When u feel like a brand new person, there's oso a
boosted level of confidence. Who noes? She might actually wanna
indulge in some harmless flirting (read: teasing only!!! ).
3. Go on a short vacation (or a few short ones, spread throughout
the yr). There're great budget places to go to. Redang is a
beautiful place, the beach is great, & it's quiet enuff so tt u
can tok abt anythg. Haf a beer @ the beach, eat to ur hearts'
content. U can oso try KL, JB, etc. Browse thru the Net for
reasonably-priced & gd hotels.
4. Avoid bringing up ur bro. If she wans to tok abt him, fine, but
find a way to change the subj asap. If she asks, dun give her a
detailed ans, juz tell her he's happee. THEN, take her mind off him
by keeping her occupied as stated in #1, 2, 3.
5. This is linked to #2, boost her confidence, so tt she'll look on
the bright side of thgs, & give her hope. Tell her how prettie
she is, how intelligent, etc. Tell her she'll find somebody who'll
make her happee. Even if she mentions him, ignore it, juz
compliment her.
Ultimately, it's up to her whether or Not to give him up. The above
r only ways to make her feel better. There's the possibility she'll
find someone else, there's oso the possibility she'll still wanna
hang onto the dream of being together wif him.
Wat's impt is tt, u support her & do thgs for her, the way a
true fren does : )
RP
