should i take the opportunity?

ZChen SG

ok here's the story... i had a close fren of mine girl one.. She and her boyfriend just broke up after a 2 year relationship.. Her boyfriend is also a close fren of mine, like buddy..

anyway, this is the part.. actually i liked her for quite some time, but i kept mum about it, coz u know lah, i won't betray my buddy, and snatched her girlfriend away.. so now, she's single liao.. should i take the opportunity to jio her? or shld i wait awhile for her to settle her feelings in the previous relationship, then jio her?

by the way, she said she wanted to talk to me, to tell me about her feelings and stuff about her previous relationship...

sgboy2004 SG

talk to her...keep talking to her.

When the time is ripe, then express your feelings to her

Yunhaier SG

I don't know about you; but I will never ever fall for a someone who was once my good buddy's love (in a relationship). I find it a turn off. All I can say is you risk affecting the friendship between the three of you.

He may talk to him; he may say its ok. Seriously, you can't take it as it is. Before you attempt chase, please sort out the possible risk and complication that may surface from your action.

Cheers

BrUtUs SG

since single liao, technically ok lah, better wait for a while then jio her.. 4 now b her listening ear lor...

winnerss SG

u may have to tink for a longer term ...

If u tink can be together; then go for it

However, there may be a back-lash ..

1) Imagine, you and this ger turn up for functions/gathering as a couple; what others will look at you (ya u, not the ger...)

2) Read from some article ..
Will what has happened between the ger and the ex-bf (your fren) bother you ?? Example intimate moments etc ...

3) How much u treasure your friendship with the guy ...

Please be prepared if u decide to proceed ...

boy in blues SG

Mr. Green i get this nagging feeling that once you try to jio her, your buddy's suddenly gona want her back. try it out and let me know if my guess comes true.

dumbdumb! SG

ya let us know. truth hor..

ZChen SG

yar thanx for the advice

me comforted her liao, now tat just take things slowly loh... dun wan to rush into anything... see whether isit possible... if she dun like me, tat also no use.. time will see...

stoner SG

R u willing to risk your friendship with your friend (buddy)

I cna tell you that no matter what your buddy may say, it will not be okay one lor... please put yourself in his shoes and tell me you feel absolutely okay with the fact that your GOod Friends is going after your ex GF.... moreover it has only been days ..... Duh ..... mayb .. after couple of years still cans.... days and months are excuses..... think abt it....

if a girl leaves a guy and the next day/month she is attached, confirm the girl got problem rite.. where got know a guy so fast and can get attached so fast one ... vice versa Cool

DeadPoet SG

Better not. Experience before, turn out quite bad. The relationship with your buddy will never be the same. If one day you break off with the girl, you will end up losing both good friend and girlfriend. Really not worth it man.

But if her boyfriend is someone you don't know of course go for it. Smile

kentl SG

Better dont do that..

Eiizumi SG

Neutral Hmm...

Eiizumi SG

My most simplistic advice,

"If you do it, do it with no regrets. Cos' regrets is for life."

Just think of the possible consequences and try to analyse situations correctly and resolve them.

I say try, cos' love is a thing really too unpredictable.

But you must try.

True_Xerion SG

I agree with Yunhaier, simply too many factors to consider with regards to existing ties with other mutual friends & ur buddy. Have u also considered what if it doesn't work out in the end with the girl? who's she gonna turn to and how will it affect her standing with all ur common circle of friends?

the Bear SG

i wonder..

those who go into relationships planning for failure?

to me, it's a definite that it'll fail..

ditzy SG

You should let her settle her feelings her. Don't be in such a rush and start to psycho her to get into another r/s. You are doing yourself a great disfavour that way.

Talk to her as nothing more than another friend. Give her the breathing space unless you want to get burnt.