Originally posted by Yunhaier:
Welcome to the art of
seduction - third law, sending mixed signal. How you want to
salvage? I suggest sending opposite message reinforcement, which
means a continuous constant message that suggest a different
intention over a period of time. I suggest you take this few
route:
I) Avoid SMS, calls, private meeting unless neccessary. Don't have
to reject her outrageously. Just handle it normally and probably
get yourself real busy these period.
II) Avoid using avoidance tactics - sure to backfire. You wanna
retreat, but you don't have to run away.
III) Do things gradually less. A quick drastic change of your
attitude towards her signify something. Don't be awkward when you
see her as well - attitude is kinda two way thingy, the minute you
react in a weird way, so will she.
IV) Don't panic, don't stress, don't worry. The most important
thing is to be yourself, keep calm and [b]always behave the way you
usually do.
Cheers[/b]
thanks a lot for your
advice all this time. but the effect of what i said to her was to
cause her to avoid me completely because she does not want to be a
third party. what i wish is not to retreat. far from that. i wish
only to very gradually normalize the friendship we had before. so
far i have fully agreed to her wish to avoid me and i want to know
how long should this period of absence be. and when i first start
to see her again, how should i do it? how to proceed from there.
because i feel the risky situation our friendship is in, i cannot
afford to make another single mistake. it's really dificult not to
panic. thanks a lot once again.
