Comments needed so maybe i noe wat to do?

puppylove SG

My story goes like this..

My first relationship aka first love lasted for about 2 years, i guess because we were both new to this we didn noe wat to do, i took things too seriously and he took things too lightly. Eventually, i was taken for granted. I did my best to salvage the relationship but attempts were fruitless cos apparently he just didn noticed. For the 2 years he didn give me anything, didn celebrate birthdays together or any special occasions, we only go out for movies like once in a blue moon, he doesn dare to hold my hand in public Laughing Anyway, it's not that i think that all these are actually a must in a relationship, but as i said i was new, still abit disillusioned. So i couldn take it one day and initiated a break up, he was extremely devastated of course, but at that point of time i didn really noticed until later. Both of us had our share of relationships as time healed.. We eventually became very close friends, telling each other almost everything.

So now, both of us are single and still keeping in close contact, he'll always call or msg me when he has time during NS. I thought it through for quite a while, i noe he was one that i love the most, first love best friends soulmate and all, always there for me too. I feel that those r/s that i went through may have been a quest to search for someone who loves me as much as he do? but of cos i got dumped la haha. Now, i feel that i am developing strong feelings for him but the thing is i'm far from wat he wants his GF to be long legs and tall.

Soooo.. i need comments Mr. Green to noe maybe wat i should do? Thank you peeps Very Happy

BrUtUs SG

so u trying to say u still like ur ex? if no long legs or tall means he wont wan?

boy in blues SG

Mr. Green sounds like you got a shy guy there, whom i find are usually caring though not very expressive. you seem to desire a more exciting kind of boyfriend maybe because you are still young and wanna have fun. ultimately the one who will more likely give you emotional security and respect is the shy guy. the fun guy won't last.

Yunhaier SG

When we were very young, we detest each time when an adult kid 'match-make' us with another gender of the opposite sex. We flush, blush or simply get annoyed. Remember the time you used to have games between battle of boys and girls? Or remember the time when you used to avoid being branding as a boy around 'girls.' or girls being very tomboy?

We grow, puberty hits and we became more aware and conscious about the opposite gender. Then we had our first love - the very first BGR relationship we embark in our life.

Nobody knows how to lead a relationship the day they were born. We all learn it by hook or by crook and it begins the very first day our first love appears and we set up a relationship with them. (Explaination of his apparant shyness and seemingly lack of effort in the relationship back then). Rolling Eyes

Regardless, we all have majority of our unevolved flaws in our first love. Then we learn, moved onto another relationship and learn again. Over the time, our flaw minimize and we know what we will be looking for each time we enters into a relationship. (Your current situation).

Now what? You walked a circle and felt that he is the best? Or is it because it is the longest relationship you led (not neccessary fulfilling - 2 years and yet having the relationship is as good as not having the relationship? I see it more like a good friendship), or the least problematic one you had, comparing to the others? Our young puppy relationship generally do not have too much complicating issues until when we see the reality side of love as we mature. Rolling Eyes

P.S: You could consider expressing yourself for the sake of saying it out since you said that you both were close. But generally, you shouldn't expect anything. Our style of partners change as we age. Keeping your emotions inside could be affecting you? Then you may want to reveal them like a talk - the way a good friend could speak to another without stress.

Cheers

torx SG

lol... i use to tell a girl.. i like girls with blah blah... but i ended up liking her, who had neither of the stuff which i told her i wanted.. anyway.. wad he has for you is either a very strong friendship or that he still likes you.. its just a line difference. but it can be a nylon string or just another thread.

good luck.. Wink

puppylove SG

Originally posted by Yunhaier:

When we were very young, we detest each time when an adult kid 'match-make' us with another gender of the opposite sex. We flush, blush or simply get annoyed. Remember the time you used to have games between battle of boys and girls? Or remember the time when you used to avoid being branding as a boy around 'girls.' or girls being very tomboy?

We grow, puberty hits and we became more aware and conscious about the opposite gender. Then we had our first love - the very first BGR relationship we embark in our life.

Nobody knows how to lead a relationship the day they were born. We all learn it by hook or by crook and it begins the very first day our first love appears and we set up a relationship with them. (Explaination of his apparant shyness and seemingly lack of effort in the relationship back then).

Regardless, we all have majority of our unevolved flaws in our first love. Then we learn, moved onto another relationship and learn again. Over the time, our flaw minimize and we know what we will be looking for each time we enters into a relationship. (Your current situation).

Now what? You walked a circle and felt that he is the best? Or is it because it is the longest relationship you led (not neccessary fulfilling - 2 years and yet having the relationship is as good as not having the relationship? I see it more like a good friendship), or [b]the least problematic one you had, comparing to the others? Our young puppy relationship generally do not have too much complicating issues until when we see the reality side of love as we mature. Rolling Eyes

P.S: You could consider expressing yourself for the sake of saying it out since you said that you both were close. But generally, you shouldn't expect anything. Our style of partners change as we age. Keeping your emotions inside could be affecting you? Then you may want to reveal them like a talk - the way a good friend could speak to another without stress.

Cheers [/b]

it wasn't the most fufilling, nor was he the best boyfriend in the whole world, it was a relationship la, but i didn elaborate the details wat.. haha i suffered quite alot during the 2 years, much more than any other relationship, so it actually wasn't the least problematic or most fufilling. Yes it was long and there were memories worth remembering, so i wouldn't say we were just very good friends. NOW maybe we are.

sounds like you got a shy guy there, whom i find are usually caring though not very expressive. you seem to desire a more exciting kind of boyfriend maybe because you are still young and wanna have fun. ultimately the one who will more likely give you emotional security and respect is the shy guy. the fun guy won't last.

yesh, i was young, dunno how to think, only want boyfriends that are super caring kind haha but it's different now though.. can actually think it through before deciding anything Smile

torx yesh! that's why.. i dunno how i can actually differentiate btwn the two Laughing and i don wanna spoil the friendship or maybe the 'brotherly love' he has for me, you noe like treating me as a sister of some sort Neutral

thanks for all your replies Mr. Green

audlenelee SG

bring him to the zoo n intro him the GIRAFFE