Originally posted by Yunhaier:
This is a good case for study and contribute good pointers for guys
to avoid especially if you sense that the girl you are chasing
belongs to this category.
What do I mean by this catergory? 
Under game of seduction, we have 18 Victims and 9 types of Seducer.
Everyone should belong to either one of these - either you are
hunting or you are being hunted. Before you go into details with
any of these, you have to recongise the Theory of Personal
Space.
Everyone has their own personal space. Different people requires
different distance. Personal space distance (PSD) in physical form
refers to the distance she could allow for others in reality. E.g.
when you enter the MRT train, your automatic thoughts would be to
chose a seat with a considerable distance with the next passager
(if its pretty empty) and you wouldn't chose a seat directly next
to a passenger when the seats opposite you is totally empty. If
someone does that: you will feel 'invaded & intruded'. However,
it would be different if you see a good friend, he/she will be
'invaded & intruded' at first instinct, but when he/she
recongise you as a good friend, he/she lowers her PSD and you are
accepted together in her comfort zone.
Its important to realise why things are happening BEFORE you come
to a conclusion that you have to abandon the chase. Of course,
[b]in every chase, there is a risk - nobody says you will
definitely succeed knowing why, but certainly it raise your chance
of getting.
To handle your case, I would suggest the Progressive Line Extension
(PLE). In simple: you have to recongise the Land Mines where you
shouldn't reach and touch yet. In war, there are battle plans. In
love, there are plans as well. People say 'Take it slow,' but
seriously: HOW SLOW IS SLOW?
This is the crucial part where guys never knew. I suggest go down
to the nearest bookstore and zoom in for a book on Body Language.
Your objective for (Lets give it a name) Phrase A, is to lower her
PSD and to be accepted in her comfort zone. SHE HAS TO FEEL
COMFORTABLE WITH YOU and NOT just you with her. Reading body
language is your only way of realising if you have reach Phrase A.
(Difficult for me to explain here ler, anyway, you should be able
to learn with time and experience).
Even if she is comfortable with you doesn't mean
anything as well. Especially if she is a Taurus, Virgo, Capricorn.
PLE has to go then. Imagine your objective in Phrase A is reached,
hang around there until the next obvious signal is given and the
Line Mine is moved further from its original position. Then move
again and stop before you hit the mines. Hang around until the next
obvious signal is given and the Mines are shifted again before you
advance again. You know you have reached the end when:
I) She is comfortable to go on a 1v1 date with you
II) She talks to you totally without stress and tension. She
doesn't hold back what she wanna say to you. Can talk about
anything at all.
III) She is totally herself when she is with you.
IV) Body language is positive and suggested positive
intimancy.
This is the Theory of PLE.
P.S: I don't believe in doing things (solo) romantically to ensure
a success in chase. In fact, generally, it doesn't work all the
time. In the Marketing Theory of Love - it is but another useful
tool. To ensure effectiveness, you have to combine and make use of
all forms of tools to your advantage. Once you have achieve PLE's
objective, you could post again. I would enlighten you about the
next move.
Cheers [/b]
Thank for giving me a such detail enlightenment.. i believe that
is what i shld be doing now if i not going to give up on the ger.
Its like flying a kite..know when you shld let go, when you shld
pull. when it come to an extent where the string cant hold the kite
anymore and it needs to break off then you really have to let it
go.
for the meant time i think she really treat me as a friend ba.. my
friend ard me ask me to take it slowly too.. maybe 1 day i will
have chance but then i wonder when i will have the chance...i got
thought of giving up on her but then i didnt. not because it is a
waste as i put in alot of effort but is that i am sincerely love
her alot no matter what..
