Does my boss want more?

fayea SG

Hi all, I am very curious about this, so if anyone can give me an insight, I will appreciate it a lot.
What happened was, my boss recently gave me a blue zirconia pendant for my xmas present. I was the only one in the outlet to get this from him. He told me that me & another girl got the most expensive presents. Hers was a Hard Rock collectible bear. The rest of them either got a pen or tee or something else. I wasn't even in the company long... when my colleagues saw what I got, they kept quiet & gave me looks. So what I want to know now is, does my boss want more? He's married with 3 kids & just turned 34. What do I do?

sgboy2004 SG

just be wary of him. If he has any advances, then make it clear to him.

U hav a bf? Show your bf to your boss too.

fayea SG

i dun have a bf now. He doesn’t make any advances to me at all. In fact, we only associate on work basis. Which is why it baffles me. I admit that we do hit off at work. But apart from that, we don’t talk about personal stuff. I really dun want my colleagues to think that I’m pulling strings to get promoted.

Whistar SG

In any company there will bound to be gossips....

So I guess the most important thing is that you just do what is right and not bother about what others have to say..since there's nothing much u can do about it....sometimes the more u try to explain the more complex things will get....rumours will die down if there's completely no truth in it....

If u get a promotion...u can prove to your colleagues that it is based on your capabilities and not via pulling strings...although this is hard and will take sometime....truth will come to light one day....

xavier1979 SG

1. Perhaps he might be interested in you.
2. Perhaps you have been more vocal abt what you'd like to get for Xmas than others.
3. Perhaps he dun like the rest of the workers.
4. Perhaps he dun noe what to get for the rest of the workers.

fayea SG

well, no, i haven’t been vocal abt what i want. In fact, it was totally unexpected. I guess no 4 seems to be more plausible.

jOhO SG

you don't do anything, since there isn't a problem, YET, is there?

it seems ur conscience is clear and u don't wanna get involved in any of this work politics stuff, so for now that, to me, is the best u have.

Yunhaier SG

Don't flood your minds with such unneccessary thoughts. What do you mean 'what do you have to you?' There is nothing for you to do. Its probably only a present and that's it. Even there is something going on behind his motives - its not shown, not mentioned and therefore not confirm.

So really, why bother and think so much?

Cheers

boy in blues SG

Mr. Green be good friend with his wife, and let his kids be your God-children.

Devil1976 SG

I like this answer.... Cool

raraninja SG

your boss wants 2 sleep with you...

Boxer SG

In normal cases, why would a man wanna give an expensive gift to anyone (man or woman) if he doesn't have ulterior motives? Unless that someone has made a lot of money for him to deserve it else he has affections for her.

It is a potential problem.

But there is nothing for you to do now until he proceeds further. What you can to now is hopefully you can have a trusted friend in company whom you can confide in this problem. If you do not, pls do not rush in to get one.

Keep us update, see what we can do to help.

nooki SG

one possible reason could be u look or act like sum1 close to him
maybe datz y he could treat u differently, but no sweat abt it

always act blur when in tis type of sticky situation
unless his actions r veri obvious, den u might haf to tok to him
ther r certain thgs in life beyond our control
do nt let thes thgs bother u too much, or else u might feel too stress

fayea SG

thanks all for the replies. after i received the present, I did act blur. So i think he has not made any moves. i think i'm safe. for whatever reason he gave it to me, i think u guys r right, i don't have think too much unless he really made any move. Very Happy
Thanks once again!!

jOhO SG

wah lauuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuu

after so long then u come back and see the thread... buay steady lar!! we put in so much effort to advise u lehhhhhhhhhhhhhh

Twisted Evil

sgboy2004 SG

The boss dun know how to buaya u is it?

Send him to me and i will teach him in an hour

Laughing

Cerebral_Assassin SG

all u ppl out here who thought that the boss got ulterior motive, i tell u….might be absolutely wrong. she is a new staff so to make her more motivated and welcome, the boss will buy a better gift. simple as that. if u r the boss, u might think this way also. because u call the shots as the boss.

antoh SG

dont worry too much i think he has no intention

fayea SG

Dear kind ppl....
Laughing sorry lah... i dun come online that often cos my schedule... i very steady lah.. thanks for the help... how to repay u guys??
as for SGBoy2004 ... haha... i think if he wants to he can buaya anyone lah... Wink as for me.... welll... dun think so..
and yes, i think i got a very rational answer so far from cerebral assasin...
thanks once again!!! Happy New Yr though it's a little too late..

Bontakun SG

x 2

If things really go bad, da next time yr boss gives u another ex stuffs compared to yr colleagues. u can politely refuse or juz accept it 7 share wif da rest.

Welcome! To da REAL world... Working enviornment is where u can see all da ugly stuffs of humanity... but oso da good side too lah... Juz take it in yr stride & learn along da wae.
Mr. Green