is the person being pined after, someone with his
hardcore lofty ideals as to what his girlfriend should must be
like? if not, try to start by being his normal friend and deepen in
your relationship. treat him in many ways as you would your best
girl friend, do not feel shy around as he will feel awkward. let
him feel comfortable about discussing ANYTHING with you. yes, that
includes talking about pretty girls, this crush and that without
turning red in the face. ie. there there is nothing too sensitive
to discuss. 100% transparency and zero distrust, jealousy.
therefore, also do not feel shy or inadequate to show him the exact
care and concern as would most accurately express the state of your
heart. so my point is to be true to yourself and to him. but i will
never encourage you to declare your intention of wanting to be her
girlfriend too soon. but rather, take this time to know him deeper
and whether you can actually go long-term. by expressing your care
and concern, there's no chance you could have gone unnoticed and if
he will even consider you a prospective gf. if not, he can't reject
either because there was never a proposal in the first place. all
this is based on the assumption that this guy is someone who can
appreciate someone who truly cares for him, and not one who insists
that she must look like his dream girl or something. so to answer
your question, yes i believe that provided the guy is someone even
worth pining after, 'ai4 shi4 ke2 yi3 pei2 yang3 de'.
