My Mum is Addicted to Gambling

Robin26M SG

My mum is heavily addicted to casino gambling and has lost millions and millions on the casino tables. Yet she still demands for more money even though we are almost broke. When we dun give her enough money, she will smash everything she sees including plates, vases and even the deity figurines we worshipped at home. I often quarrel with her becos of her demands and in revenge, she went out and spread rumours that we as her kids are unfillial to her and my dad is a unfaithful bastard who abuses her physically. She will treat us like shit but takes her friends as treasure. She will only be nice to us when she needs money.I would like to know what you people out there would react. Is it really unfillial on my part if i shout at her in public and ignore her? I am really pissed at her double standards.

audlenelee SG

a bit like in the movies ah.. hmm.. have u tried to persuade her to go 4 counselling? or.. did she start gambling when she was young or is it her frenz? is she a housewife or something? perhaps if she wasn’t bored, she wouldn’t have gone gambling? try to give her more care n concern, perhaps when she felt love in the home, she might just start thinking and repent..

zacken99 SG

Shocked hw cum we r sharing the same fate...............

NeonTetra SG

tell her to stop gambling and take up some healthy activities like line dance, cooking and flower arrangment?

www SG

based on how you described, u are not unfillial.

zacken99 SG

wat i do is dun care abt her ..i simply refuse to give her any $ ..even ah long cum my house i also bo chap....i tell them to kill her if they needed to...i literally make her feel the consequences ....
for the recent 3 yrs.. things is improving.... she need to wake up herself...cos she wun listen...
if u believe in fengshui.. u can try puting a black object at sw area.....this might help abit....

narz SG

good to hear that things are improving dear....

/me pat pat zack

the Bear SG

write a letter to her...

write it honestly, and plainly.. with all that you, your family feels about her habits.. and how destructive it is to those whom she loves..

give it to her, ask her to read it, as you cannot say it out without bursting into tears.. the best way would be to write it.. ask her to read it and read it carefully.. then leave the room for her to digest your letter..

NeonTetra SG

digest letter means to eat the paper?

KrU SG

As in digest the content of the letter?

SingaporeMacross SG

wah lao eh!!

the Bear SG

don't be silly... if you can't help, try not to hinder?

especially in matters of the heart... never ever be flippant...

BrUtUs SG

sg got casino?

MooKu SG

no larh.. maybe other places like Genting Highlands... I heard there are offshore casinos.. Only costs about $50 to get on the casino ship to gamble...

huy SG

wow lau. so serious ah. although my mum also goes for occasional mahjongs, but at least she nv treat us liek that.. if my mum treat me liek what ur mum treat u, then i not going to bother about her stuff. she wan to go gambling by all means and i not giving her a single cent..

zacken99 SG

Wink im ok...

boy in blues SG

Mr. Green give her daily allowance and treat her like a school kid. because that's how she's behaving. bring her to church because she needs a new life and a miracle to change that.

Leonhart_82 SG

Well...try to engage her in some other activities...maybe you can try to accompany her to take some of the activities...hope things turn out better for ya...God Bless... Wink

Devil1976 SG

YUP... You're probably unfillial on your part... But for this kinda mum? Who cares if you're unfillial or not....?? Rolling Eyes

Robin26M SG

Thanks for all your replies. The ironic thing is that i also work inside a casino for a living, Its useless to persuade my mum to give it up. Almost all of my family members has given up on her. Life has been hell for us though things are picking up. Worst of all, my dad is willing to forgive her and give her 10 to 15K monthly allowance when business picks up again. I cant believe such silly men still exists. pardon me for calling my dad silly. If you guys have a wife like my mum, will you be nice to her like my dad?