Gals or Guys should take the initiaive??

last SG · 2003-11-27T15:33:35+00:00

please read my previous posts carefully, i believe i have done so by rebuking reasons stated by both whistar and huy. again, this reasoning can also be read...

Whistar SG

Just had a talk with some friends.....seems like quite a number of them are faced with this same scenario.....

I have also read about this topic in another forum before...seems like some guys like being approached by gals.....taking that as a sort of flattery.....So......

Who do you think should take the initiative?

Girls or Guys....

Both guys and gals are fearful of rejection....So what are the pros and cons if a guy/gal makes the first move.....

Now is the 21st century....yaya...girls are getting more daring...is it really true?? Some guys are just too shy to approach the gals they like etc....

But i still think it would be better if guys make the first move........ That's how i advice my friends.....maybe its more of a conservative thinking...hee hee..... Smile

What are your views?

akijo SG

actually i think it doesnt matter who make the 1st move..
if one reali like the other party i think shld actually test the person or b frank tell the person bt mayb can b a jokin manner then if kena reject wont b tat malu... Laughing

sgboy2004 SG

buaya will sure make the first move... Mr. Green

MooKu SG

cliched phrase.. but carpe diem.

if you really like someone you gotta say it straight out and loud before it's too late Mr. Green

the Bear SG

say it.. don't play games...

life is too short, hearts are too fragile for them....

love! damn the consequences!

damz83 SG

Aiyoh… Yr 2003 liao leh! I think girls can make the first move as much as guys lor! People shd just tell others what they feel. Waste you time keeping feelings to yourself.

BrUtUs SG

"just do it" Cool

Yunhaier SG

Originally posted by Whistar:
Just had a talk with some friends.....seems like quite a number of them are faced with this same scenario.....

I have also read about this topic in another forum before...seems like some guys like being approached by gals.....taking that as a sort of flattery.....So......

[b]Who do you think should take the initiative?

Girls or Guys....

Both guys and gals are fearful of rejection....So what are the pros and cons if a guy/gal makes the first move.....

Now is the 21st century....yaya...girls are getting more daring...is it really true?? Some guys are just too shy to approach the gals they like etc....

But i still think it would be better if guys make the first move........ That's how i advice my friends.....maybe its more of a conservative thinking...hee hee..... Smile

What are your views?

[/b]

Doesn't matter. Taking initiative only prevents you from regretting not doing anything.

Cheers

Yunhaier SG

So you mean you will make the first move? Mr. Green Twisted Evil

Whistar SG

hmm....so maybe should suggest to my frenz to make the first move....but dun think they will want to though......cos they are rather shy by nature.....

Matters of the heart can be so complicated.....ultimately....they will have to make the decision themselves....

cooleo SG

Both guy and gal should take the initiative. Life is so short, why bother about fear of rejection? It is better to be rejected, than to face the posssibility of losing someone who could possibly have affections for you? Wink

www SG

who wants it. who should ask for it.

boy in blues SG

Mr. Green show care, concern and fondnest. but don't ever declare start of BGR. it's redundant.

raraninja SG

I think guys should be take initiative lor...wats abit of embarassment if you can let they girl u know u like her....
boy lay...must be stylo abit mah..throw face abit its ok...

www SG

kinda outdated right?

huy SG

agree.. guys should make the first move.. my aunt once told me no matter what, gers should not the take the intiaitve first. or esle the guy will take u for granted and u may end up regretting that u make the first move...well, that wat i tik...

www SG

.. and so that guys should take the first move and be taken for granted?

interesting.

raraninja SG

inherently guys and guys are meant to be different..
if u are too shy to make the first move..wat else is there u are brave enuff to do? just like a pussy cat rite.. i wont be too impressed...

taken advantage abit wat do u stand lose? be cool lah...MCP behaviour wont get anyone anywhere...girls give birth u want to try? everything also want to be equal...

www SG

i believe u are confused on where i am coming from.

point #1:
i wasnt opposing that guys should not make the first move. i was encouraging that girls should make the first move as well.

point #2:
you are right that MCP behaviour wont get anyone anywhere. likewise, FCP behaviour wont get one anywhere either.

in today's world, u can always choose to wait for the guy whom u like to initiate the first move. but this doesnt necessary mean he will.

and when he doesnt and head for someone else, you would probably be one of those girls who curse and swear that good guys are either married or gays.

all in all, if one doesnt know how to open their big mouth on what they want, he/she doesnt deserve it.

and please dont make it sound like giving birth is like hell. one can choose not to do so. in return, do you wanna try national service and be the gender that inherently be acknowledged as the breadwinner?

Whistar SG

Guys have traditionally been seen as the one who takes the initiative....

It doesn't mean that if a guy takes the first move he will be taken for granted....instead....it shows

1) how much that girl means to him
2) the courage he has to admit to his feelings....