Qoo`~` SG additonal info: spoke to B last night, she tells me that all she had done was a waste of time (glad that she realise it) however, she is just waiting forsome other guy to come along and "save" her from this mess while still going along with G. from the way i see it,it is not like thia..coz B has no lack of suitors.. many guys went after her during the 2-3 years.. but shekan bu shang them.. haf a feeling that she only said those things to me like an excuse to shut me up... (she called me su Ku first) sms A last night also.. sheon the other hand said that she will love this guy forever and ever... haiz.. dunno what to do sia... both plead me to talk to G to accept them. how??
Yunhaier SG B is such a pisces man. I have a Pisces good friend who acts exactly the same way as her - waiting for another guy to save her from this mess. I told her about the ship hop analogy, she told me that she is someone who needs constant care and love. (Not surprising for a Pisces), but I told her for long term, it's not good for her. Still, she is still like that. She has no lack of suitors as well - just that, no one is that good enough to make her leave his current bf, whom I feel isn't much of a good bf as well (considering her qualities, she can always get someone better). This person cannot be just good, it has to be terribly much better before she would leap. Both of them ask you to do something, but they failed to realise that the real solution lies within the guy. Cheers
X-men SG I know lah. From the additional info u provide, looks like this mess is going to last for a while more. I think really need G to make up his mind lor. A & B would not let go. It's like a man holding one to 2 gals over a cliff, dropping either one will send them to death, yet he cannot hold on to both as the hands are hurting really bad.... but still he have to make a choice of dropping one else it will pull all THREE of them down to the grave below.
Qoo`~` SG hahhaha yup yup that the exact characteristic of pisces man... but im more interested to knw A,coz she is rather quiet.Ask her if she as told anyone abt this, she said no coz she doesnt wan her friends judge (or say bad things) G.. unlike B told to every friends that she has, maybe thats the way she relieve her stress, bt talking it out. to me,A is very sweet in this sense..dunno abt other things she did for G. guess she is also a vERY nice lady willingly to sacrifice for G anytime. guess they realise that, guess that they dun wan toput pressure to G, both knows G well enuff that he hates them pestering him..
Qoo`~` SG if thats the case, B will let go offG's hand.. confirm.. once they had a confrontation in a car, A sat next to the driver's seat and told B that she is the intruder (3rd party), B was very very sad and leFT.. that scene make G very sad too.. he doesnt want either person to get hurt...(come to think of it..it really makes me wanna cry)
Yunhaier SG I mean as a friend there is little you can do except to influence him - the real solution, in trying to settle this. Maybe you would like him to take a look at this topic and go through every single post here. He can PM me if he wish. Cheers
Qoo`~` SG B suggested to G that she will go and talk to A, but G refuses coz he said A will even be stick onto him and force him even more. B felt useless and feel that she cant do anything to help B. they got into a quarral one day,and G told B "toldu that there's is day already, from day 1 we reconcile, u shld have be prepared that this will happen.told u that we shld stop, but u insist" after hearing these, B heart really sank, coz she thought that she really love G and G too..nver expect G to said such things.....nonetheless, this stupid ger still wan to be with G.WHAT'S WRONG WITH HER~~~!!!!! and A knowing that they still keep in touch.. still determine to be with G WHAT'S WRONG WITH THEM~~~!!!!!!!!!
Yunhaier SG Avoidance, avoidance - I mentioned in all my previous post. And if you recalled: I said before, none of them wished to lose to the other party. His solution lies within him - he have to consider the options I have stated in my first post. Cheers
Qoo`~` SG okie.. but i think he wld be angry with me if i told him.. coz i kindda of hint hint him already.. actually i wanted him to come is so that he cld "verify" the situation for me and correct me if im worng, of coz he must be objective to those posts.... Thanks.
Qoo`~` SG ok, i will relay those suggestion to me, and told him that its what I think, hope u dont mind.
Yunhaier SG Sure man. Then if he rebut some points and you need assistance. You can post it here or PM me. I will try to get back to you as soon as possible. Cheers
Qoo`~` SG okie.. but in this case, are the gers right to hated each other? its their feelings, we cant control them right? shld i feel more for A, B or G?personally now, i felt for B n G coz both confide in me more, A seldom talk, coz she is that sort of quiet type wan....
Yunhaier SG They hate each other, cannot blame them. Anyway, their dislike between each other is unavoidable. My take is don't feel for anyone of them - just remain neutral and objective. Cheers
Devil1976 SG Hmm... You've lacked out one of my questions... What's YOUR horoscope? THIS CASE... Probably isn't much worthy of a help... Except 'A' who could be a 'true victim'. The other 2 are just superficially trapped. I wish to know of the blood groups of the 3 if it's not too difficult for you? If not, the more important would be blood group of 'A'. You're partially right when you said that 'G' is a lost sheep. But probably a 'temporary' one. Yun has been quite partially right about 'G' too. It all started off as quite a 'simple' relationship. 'A' & 'G'. 6 years you said? Pretty long time...? In your personal opinion, in terms of attractiveness who would fair better? 'A' or 'B'? My 1st advice goes to 'A'. Because she's probably a TRUE VICTIM and needs help. Ask her to GIVE UP on 'G'. It won't solve anything. Even if 'B' is gone. Her relationship with 'G' has been quite long and is quite a factor for 'G' to detour (at least probably so based on G's form of mentality). Chances of stray is quite high. 'G' is a bit like lost sheep because he wants in and at the same time (probably subconsciously) he wants out. Hence the confusion within himself. Note that he could have broke off with 'B', but he went back to 'check on her'. Despite her age. Despite her past commitment to this relationship. If she knows what's good for her it's time for her to move on. High chance is the future with 'G' won't be a bright one. Added on A's nature. Even if she manage to retain G on this one, maintaining the relationship on a sober balance would be difficult. Ask her about... She'll probably know what you're talking about... 'B' is just like sort of an 'intruder'. But of course, in a relationship there're usually no 'intruders'... Just willing parties.... 'B' probably know about A's sucidal acts and tendencies quite a while ago. Chances of 'B' being suicidal now is quite LOW. It can also be a fabrication on G's part. 'B' is indeed quite strong like 'G' has described and know how to take care of herself. Her suicidal act (probably not many) is just a follow-up of the attention 'A' is getting from her suicidal tendencies if it's true and not a fabrication by 'G'. She's probably 'MOST willing' to let go if not for her stubborness. She probably felt VERY CHEATED by 'G' in a way. You probably can tell from the way she talk to you IF she's sincere in her conversation with you... Else, she's probably just hiding it. 'G' probably deserves more of 'B' than 'A'. And deserves the outcome he'll have with her. A bit like the 'short-term' & 'long-term' investments Yun was talking about... He finds 'B' rather attractive but does not provide for the kind of security that 'A' can give. YET, he's probably unwilling to just let go of 'B' based on the little doubts he might hold. Yes, he may be CONFUSED & 'TRAPPED'. YET, he's probably the KEY FACTOR in this relationship. His heart is NOT fixed. 'WHAT he WANTS?' is the QUESTION. And he'll have to be DECISIVE in his acts. Regards.
raraninja SG But G has to decide..bad guy or not I think is something a guy will definitely think about when if he decides to break..it will be easier to break if the ger is independent and emotionally strong...its tough if the ger is someone like A... Both gers will never hate G until he decides to break with either one of them... At the end of the day, A I feel will be the eventual heart-broken party lor... if G and B thinks they are truly in love then she has to somehow accept tht she no longer has a place in G's heart...I dun think A will ever leavie willingly until G breaks off with her..Someone is bound to be hurt...its just a matter of who...
shaunlaw SG Way to go , Yunhaier~~ U are the best advisor in AA! /mr bow to yunhaier~~~ ok, heres my one cent worth of tot: Like wat yunhaier said, it started with G and shld end with G. He shld be undecisive anymore! Theres no more room for him to be undecisive! He got to noe who to choose. Theres no way that he is not going to hurt both as he is aready hurting them both! 2 person hurt is better than 3 person hurt rite? I feel tt its time fot him to let go one of them. And based on wat i have read, i think he noes the ans aready. Just ask him to do it. Anyway, hes a guy, can dun be so undecisive?
Qoo`~` SG do ilook like that sort with r/s prob? hehehhe hard to find someone to like me with butt full of cellulite...hahhahha and a Blur F* Queen~~
Qoo`~` SG Originally posted by Yunhaier: They hate each other, cannot blame them. Anyway, their dislike between each other is unavoidable. Nod Nod. My take is don't feel for anyone of them - just remain neutral and objective. im afraid that i cant do it as well as you, coz human afterall, tend to have certain impression and schema with ppl they contact, esp on such matter.. so i sometimes wonder if i take sides when narrating stories to u guys (i hope not as i have read over n over before i post) Cheers
