About men and women

dreamykite SG

Recently there’s a rise of people going pubs for the thrills of getting to know girls/guy. They can go into the extent of having ONS and not knowing the person in the following day. Worse of all, some have affairs leaving their wives and children at home. The more secretive their relationship is, the more they feel excited. This obviously shown human blatan desire for sex without no love. Like the rise of prositition (similiar to free ONS), massage parlours, cosmetic surgery, etc. With men fullfilling their inert desire and women having the attention w/hich they craz for. Both men and women need the assurance of their physicality from the public excluding their partners and family members. If this social immorality is to persist in our society, I suggest we abandon the idea of marriage. Why? This is for the good of all who resist the moral one. Don’t you agree?

Devil1976 SG

Cool

hopy SG

guess its subjective n boils down to individual lifestyle n upbringing ba... Rolling Eyes

abterror SG

i think in today's society,
due to having a better life, education, buying power, exposure.
it is no longer a taboos in our life for ONS.
As wat is lost is already lost so doing it with an unknown party is only assume as a tool for release of desires.
With contraceptives wore, it is only serve as a "dildo".
Once everything is over, pack up and and carry on with life as they can feed themselves.
Perhaps it is also due to stress in the society tat lead to all these.
Some become gays or lesbian, some dun need commitment, some will even do "transactions" to trade for wat they wants.
Personally, i know a ger of this kind, cool, trendy, but however part of them is already lost.
Wonder is it tat good to be a public car park?
There are risk in ONS as in STD, caught on cam, pregeancy kindda stuff.
Mr. Green Neutral

Yunhaier SG

Gonna answer this in summary form:

Just in case you din realise, it has ALWAYS BEEN THERE. Rise of people going pubs and seeking for ONS? Its has ALWAYS BEEN THERE. Rolling Eyes

Abandon marriage? That's insanely stupid. What you see is only half the glass; the idealogy of true love will ultimately lead into marriage, which will be the classic case of 'once there, forever will be'.

The theory of sex and nature works close to one another, while the theory of love and spirit is another altogether. Man by nature is born to mate and provide, while woman is to nuture. Man are 'taught' by nuture to spread its seeds around, to propagate and ensure humanity continues, while woman are 'taught' to cater and nuture the young, also to ensure the young ones survive and humanity continues. By nature you fark, by spirit you make love. Rolling Eyes

Example: Man patron bar. Man attracted physically or sexually to any woman, man wants to screw her. (literally - spread the seeds theory). Woman on the other hand, resist because woman has more to invest (nuture nature). - This is provided external factor is not considered to overweigh on both side. Rolling Eyes

Love is spiritual. Probably only human could attain such level in emotions. Marriage is the acknowledgement of your love blossoming into something. NOW, marriage has merely became a certificate. Physical evidence of superficial love - shotgun marriage, or for any physical & measurable reasons (Wealth, financial and probably career stability). This is the nature side of love. Spiritual love needs no such conditions. Rolling Eyes

Human's mind affects this as well: Psychological needs (Status, looks, 'feel', etc) conjunct with morals, values (Responsibility, religion teachings, etc). The spiritual side: Cosmic lesson & karma. In a nutshell of 100% - all these factors contribute into the person's attitude towards relationship. (Subjective and differ from people to people)

All these affects one's fate in any love relationship. If people wants to screw around, Physics Law states that there will be an equal opposite force (check out people who cheat on their marriage, do you think they are truely happy?). Love cosmic lesson stated that one comes into this world to learn something, repayin or collecting -if it must involve sexuality - it will. (Check out the chance of you marriaging your first love and happy-ever after is like how fringin` impossible in today's context?) Rolling Eyes

P.S: I type a whole list of sh|t, however I think its far too nagging. Anyway, marriage will and should never be abolish

Cheers

keisha SG

*piak!*

tok! Evil or Very Mad

dreamykite SG

People tend to beautify marriage eg. the happily everlasting Cinderalla story – which is just a fiction. If they can only realise the existence of spiritual love, there wouldn’t be so much of broken marriages, adulterous, ONS, prositution, massage parlours/ health centres etc. When man screw another woman, both parties had already forgotten about their partner but succumb to the temptation. Marriage is just a society culture that a man has to live with a woman. Are they happy or not – nobody cares. They can depend on each other just for survival and no romances. However marriage is suppose to live harmoniuosly and spiritually, however with the set in of sex trade and human indecent desires, it can’t be fullfilled. Therefore, marriage hasn’t done good to our society as its modernisation continues.

Devil1976 SG

If you want, I can probably write a BOOK on this. Anyway, all these have been happening all the while... Just different time zone, different ways of doing things... Morality has not been 'ruined' (at least not exactly?), it just has been CHANGED. Welcome to the NEW MILLENNIUM. Cool

Yunhaier SG

People beautify marriage? Sorry but this only happens in movies and stories. In reality, people of this era feels that marriage isn't a forever thing. Under theory of Love Law nine - Marriage is not forever. Sad to say, but its true. Rolling Eyes

Broken marriage and adultery can be minimise and if it happens, it's truly one (or more) criticial stage that one have to go through before reaching to the next phrase of your relationship destiny. If one has to undergo divorce before ending in his/her next marriage where he/she will realise the partner he/she really wants to spend the rest of the life with - in this case, divorce can be a loving thing. Rolling Eyes

However, majority of people ended up in marriage due to incorrect timing which constitute to the lack of maturity. Environmental factors creeps in and its difficult to avoid marriage, together with the cosmic lesson you ought to learn, one can never predict the trend that is coming for you. Rolling Eyes

The thing about love is that nobody except yourself can enlighten your personal views, attitude and preception about love.

I am debating towards your views about loveless marriage, which is the current trend, yet its doesn't speaks about the whole picture of marriage generally. There are millions of loving couples out there, just that when it comes to the negative side of love, the tendency to exaggerate is there.

What makes you think that marriage hasn't done any good for the society? Rolling Eyes

Like I had said, sex trades existed thousands of years ago -Nobody is surprise nor is this anything new.

Cheers

the Bear SG

so, instead of aiming for the ideal, we wallow in our degradation?

if we fail at being the best, we try to be at our worst?

you can't sell that to me Smile

i'm not buying..

dreamykite SG

The set in of immoral sexual behaviour and sex trade has indirectly resulted in disharmonious marriages. A concept that has long been forgotten by our so call ‘modern society’. With the start of sex trade and immoral sexual behaviour, our society has been filled with greeds and desires. If marriage is about spiritual love, how could it exists in such ‘corrupted society’. A party has to go. Obviously, the rise is at sex trades and immoralvsexual desires in our country, therefore marriage has to be foregone unless the reverse is to take place.

M©+square SG

I am very interested to know if you're a idealist which of cos your nick speaks alot on that. Or you're socialist.

Yunhaier SG

Set of immoral sexual behaviour and sex trade are not linked with disharmonious marriage, rather it is link with individual principle and moral.

Start of sex trade our society has been filled with greeds and desire? For the third time I am repeating: The existence of sex trade has been there SINCE ages ago. From there, it has already foster greeds and corrupting desire. If has nothing to do with 'modern days' because simply it has already been there. Rolling Eyes

Marriage is between two individual - nothing to do with the society on the whole. Regardless of how the world changes, marriage is still within two.

If marriage is about spiritual love, how could it exists in such 'corrupted society'

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Many people married for other reasons and not the fruit of their love. I don't understand your link between this chaotic world and marriage. It's two separate entities althogether. Why wouldn't marriage exist in your so called 'corrupted' society? You mean the world wasn't corrupted in the past and marriage could exist? Rolling Eyes

Well, I advice you to read books relating to Karmic love relationship and probably you have a better understanding on why not every relationship will end up 'happily-ever-after.' This process is inevitable and to acknowledge its presence is the first step to enlightened yourself.

Cheers