i'm gay, i need a cure!!!

sk8erguy SG

I'm gay...

It's really terrible. I've lost all confidence of meeting other guys, and i'm going to enter national service next year. I need help quitting!

I desperately need help....

the Bear SG

is this a lifestyle thing or did you choose to be gay or are you naturally bent that way?

there is a difference...

Parka SG

Hmmmmm...

Think of girls loh.

Mr. Green

narz SG

Being gay is a sickness that needs to be cured?

Since when? Rolling Eyes

wuming78 SG

btw how u noe u gay? when u realise u gay? and how u noe u not bi?

sk8erguy SG

not sure...i think it's most probably the way i was brought up....

since young nobody corrected the way i think, and for a few years already i been thinking about guys....

now, i want to quit, cuz it's affecting my confidence, and my relationships....

and i don't want to enter NS like this....

MooKu SG

Hmm yeah quite true.. Maybe if you look more at pretty girls, you'll find THEM attractive. Just don't go to Changi Beach Mr. Green go to SENTOSA!!! Laughing I mean, really! No harm giving it a try Wink

sk8erguy SG

I get really turned on when i think about guys...

i've tried thinking about girls but i just don't feel anything, and i'm also the type that respect girls so i don't imagine them naked....unless it's like popstar...but still doesn't work....

i feel it's a "disease" cuz i just don't feel it's right....

the Bear SG

i think you need a shrink... someone who can help you sort out your head...

if you don't want, take some time off and do some serious and honest introspection... figure out what is it you want...

sexual orientation isn't usually "chosen" by a person...

i hope you find your peace of mind Smile

wuming78 SG

yes i agree...

y u say its ur upbringing?

sexual orientation is realli something in ur mind... so as bear said if something can actualli be done it will be in the mind - c a psychiatrist.

in the end, i oso believe sexual orientation is not something one can choose. so i not tt sure if u can actualli switch back to being straight...

but r u veri gay? well.. sometimes its not obvious one is gay from his/her outlook and normal behaviour u noe.

sk8erguy SG

How can i go see a shrink??? i'm a student....who's gonna pay the fees? i'm not rich.....

yah...i been trying real hard to think of gals instead of guys, but it's really really hard. I end up masturbating thinking about anything at all.....

And i grew up in a highly religious family....i know the bible says it is wrong.

Parka SG

Think it will all come to one word "determination"

If you are determine not to be a gay, then you have to work towards it.

wuming78 SG

well.. if u canot c a shrink den realli dunno wat else u can do. u can o cos do nothing, and live wif it - no need to let anyone noe. or u can try to make urself straight lor - kua zarbor, watch porn (realli...), etc etc.. but pls dun end up going deeper in the wrong direction. and anyway theres nothing wrong wif masterbating nor wif being gay.

sk8erguy SG

i’ll try to find a psychiatrist…i believe it’s all in the mind also…my upbringing, well i’m close to both my parents. It’s just that i remember going off-track somewhere….i think it’s when i hit puberty, where i started seeing porn and stuff….i just started thinking guys can give better satisfaction than girls loh….

the Bear SG

Institute of Mental Health...

i do hope they have someone there to help... without prejudice..

and, it's not a disease, yah? Smile

sillyme SG

try letting your parents know?

wuming78 SG

no lah.. its not a disease... one canot be infected. Wink

sk8erguy SG

thanks a lot guys.....

when u think abt a girl, what is u like abt them?

the Bear SG

i'm not the typical guy.. i'm attracted to only one.. alas, i've lost her...

when with her, everything about her.. her sweet voice, her tenderness, her kind nature, her intelligence, the way she moves, her curves, her soft touch, her beauty, her sweet-smelling hair... everything Smile

i hope the others will answer your question better Smile

Starmaster85 SG

breast...her pussy etc ?