Originally posted by Yunhaier:
When you decide to contact her, it already signal your unconscious
desire to have a little break through from your current attached
situation. Probably you may feel that after you got attached, old
friends are forgotten - but since you mentioned that you regret
upon the fact that you could have a chance back then - you are
eating 'old grass'. 
The dates, the conversation and all the seemingly
beautiful events that took place are all illusions of 'love' -
[b]what not yours is always charming and alluring -
especially when regrets are concerned.
But then, when you mentioned about 'what if I chase after you...' -
you are putting your own relationship at great risk. It may mean
nothing, but how sure are you? Let me tell you, everything said or
done has a reason behind. When it comes to matters of love: you
cannot deny your heart's feel, therefore your actions is difficult
to escape the eyes of a third party - Your post suggested risk
factor towards your coming love fate. How are you going to lead
this fate?
Your latter post suggested some dislike about your current gf - my
feel is that, there is nothing major or critical about it. Search
your feelings for her and not looking for her flaws - probably you
will realise your real answer. You have been together for years -
flaws would have become acceptance - this is not the real
excuse.
You are seeking new direction and breaking through
your own routine attached life. This girl served a prefect
catalysis to help you achieve it and how sure are you that this
illusion will last?
Liking someone and suitability is two different
thing. If you are asking me if you should chase someone
who has a bf - I would tell you all is fair in love and war -
however, you are accountable for your gf as well. Make sure before
one new chapter opens, the other must close.
P.S: Never make reckless decision that could ruin yourself.
Everyone has transitory love and yours could be one. Use time and
self reflection to understand the theory behind.
Cheers [/b]
Hi I'm glad to hear alot of views as well as from urs. Your
views are great and really make a good guidance for me. U see, I
always believe it takes two hands to clap. When I asked her out, it
was a positive reply. Ok, even if it's for sake of meetup after so
long didn't contact....I guess one would usually not meetup for the
second time. When we chat with each other, I would have the feeling
of gf n bf, cox sometimes when we talk, the distance quite close.
It's not that I'm seeking a new direction but...why i would get
that feel?
Whether is it worth, I'm not sure cox no one will know...but I do
know that if I proceed at least I try.
Ok..if the suituations becomes like this.....
1) I'm single but she's attached
2) We're both single
3) We're both single but she and I have that bit of interest
towards
each other
4) I made it known to her even though she's attached but no
sure
whether she have that interest in me too
what will become of it?
