sonic_seed SG Yes I do love my gf...after so many things me n her have gone tru. But the fact is.....I still wish to know wat the things going to happen if I were to express my feelings...not say I love her la but tell her that I did have interest in her last time, how I feel so happy seeing her again after so many years and why i decided to contact her again. and that if I were to tell her....how would she feel? What are your views?
Yunhaier SG Allow me to comment your first paragraph - you think far too much. Remember all these are your impression and preception. What makes you so sure it is something significiant for her as well? Distance closed up and your heart tremble with overflowing emotions - same for her as well? Maybe not 100% applicable. She definitely feel comfortable with you, but that does not equate to love. Meeting up after long recesses of non-existence contact doesn't mean anything as well. Your situation 1 to 4 are redundant. Notice that from case 1 to 4 - you mentioned nothing about you being attached - your subconscious avoid the fact that you have a gf (in reality) and must be accountability to her. I said before in my prior post - all is fair in love and war, but before one new chapter open, the other must close. However if you are single, she got or no bf, got or no interest, whatsoever doesn't matter. P.S: Living on temporary illusion to decide upon important decision is dangerous and unwise - If choice made badly, You are likely to regret or at least cross a couple of karmic hurdle before you can walk on smooth love road again. Cheers
boy in blues SG who do you love more? your current girlfriend or her? and who does she love more? her current boyfriend or you?
sadsadguy SG Double timing is never a good time. Even if you do not have feelings for your current gf, it is your responsibility to end your relationship with her before even trying to start a new. Actually, do you really want to break up with your gf in the first place. If you manage to date this "new" gal, and THEN you break with your gf, what will you do if you regret your decision? Break with the "new" gal and go back? Advice : NEVER DOUBLE TIME. Even if you break up, don't get into a new relation too soon. Anyway, from what I read, you are not actually asking advice but rather someone to agree with you that you should just start this new relationship. Do really think about it serious and not just let your heart lead you.
sonic_seed SG I’m actually quite surprised some of the guys here actually can feel what I’m trying to express here. Anyway….I have thought about it and that from the way I see things go….it won’t last long one…this is juz the begining after a long time of lost contact. I juz go with the flow lo and time will show me the answer. I still love my gf and I cherish this time spent recently with this girl. Whatever it is….this is a beautiful dream…................
sonic_seed SG Yesterday...I did what I finally did....ending one memory of mine...sort of. I told her everything.... but before that have asked her a few question before finally told her that I have gf.....cox initially I didn't said anything bout having a ger nor denying the fact that I have one. In the end...she told me she was abit embarressed that she thought I have a liking in her....but the truth is...I do...that is in the past...and I really cherish the few moments that I have recently will the meetup....sigh.............all I can say...I'm late sort of..
sonic_seed SG It's always so ironic.....here I'm facing two girl... One being my gf (A)....the other I used to like (B)........ If I were to go for B... Negative Secenrio: there's no guarantee of a new relationship...she may leave me after a few months or may not...or perhaps leave me with a greater regret....though with sweet memories bought from the past...but with bitterness that waits upon me..........for I gave up A for B Positive Secenrio: I'm very happy that I have make a bold decision and that I'm really happy to be with her.... If I were to go for A I have to give up B.....an aching heart will be felt....and I could continue my journey with A....with regrets in the beginning for which I cannot accept.....but maybe time will heal it..... Really....I couldn't really think quite well now.....though it's easy for ya guys to give your opinions...but if this were to happen to U....what would U do.....it's a pain..agony....regret....no one could understand fully......
M©+square SG My dear friend, when it comes to matters of the heart. Never assume that people don't understand. There are many people who have been thru things you may not have thought you could have gone thru. I have been thru that experience. the dilema....B was a great girl, dream girl. A Nurse(my fav) and a part time ballet dancer. She fufills every single expectations i have for a girlfriend. Moreover she wanted to be together.....however. It all ended. Cos i chose A. Now A also ended. It's a passing phrase in life. More importantly, how old are you? You must be quite young....more experiences and exciting rides to come. Enjoy!
Devil1976 SG I thought you've made quite a good decision here? Referring to the post you've made right after this one... Don't think too much about things especially after a sound decision has been made... Usually in this world, there's no such thing as a 'perfect solution'... There're bound to be 'loop holes' to the decision you make, here and there... The more you think of how it COULD have been if you made the other choices, you more you might regret your current choice... The fact is you'll never know if things would have been worse if you choose to go the other path(s).... The possibility is quite endless usually, so quit wasting your time on such...?
sonic_seed SG Well....end of the day when I send her home...she chuckle and told me...should'nt have so late told her....n that she was embarressed in thinking that I like her....and she give a pat on my helmet....but the fact is correct lo....well I wouldn't be surprised if she had this thought in thinking I liked her cox I try to ask her out for dinner when talk over the phone this n that..after so many years....so..........sigh.....................................................................................................................................................................................
