hi everyone..hanks for all the advice given..relli appreciate
that..
now i am hoping we can succeed in annulment (voiding marriage)
instead of separation which takes a much longer time...but if we
dun succeed in annulment, i dun mind waiting for 3 yrs.. i dun
intend to jump into another relationship anyway..
funnily, i feel a sense of liberation right now, during these few
days when i am alone...i did not cry, and i dun think i ever
will..
i feel more carefree, less burdened. i finally have time to do my
own things.
much more importantly, i realised i have grown up. in the past when
i broke up with him, all i felt was misery. i cried everyday. but
now, i feel happy! difference: in the last time we broke up, i
couldnt let go of the past and couldnt forget the memories. but
now, i look to the future and the prospects of living without him.
there is really a big difference in how i feel now 
whoever assisted me in this journey, i thank u. 