I agree very much....... not easy to get over our ex
because of my ex, I became a violent man. I drink a lot, I start
brawl and hurt a lot of people.... I became a monster because I
still love my ex at that time.....
Is it helping me..... no....... I don't want to be a
monster......
Even at night, when loneliness engulfs me and makes me vengeful, I
control..... No matter what, I will not be tempted to do the wrong
thing.
I know you love your ex-bf. However, you have to be fair to
yourself too. Can you bring yourself to hurt yourself just like I
became a fighting monster in the past.
This is not selfish. This is your own welfare. And I know this is
difficult because I got a bunch of noisy friends 
who will come to MIRC to lecture me how to ge over
it and still my relationship is the worst Hangover in the
world. But never the less, keep trying no matter how long
it takes.
We are all here to help..... people who is hurt and people who is
not hurt are there to help each other.
Maybe I should organising a outing in a pub where girls can cry
there silly and guys can get drunk fresh naked
