how to go after a guy?

jeslin SG

alright.. it has been guys going after and wooing girls since centuries ago. but i really like this guy, but how should i go and do about it, which i mean woo him? maybe some ppl will feel that this is not right and degrading. but i think i should look for my happiness. =) how should i do it, i really like to know. i can’t possibly call him every single day and buy him flowers. plz help.

the Bear SG

be friends with him, then slowly tell him your intentions Smile

good luck!

jeslin SG

will he be scared and den run away?

the Bear SG

not every guy's the same... some will..

just like not every woman's the same...

slowly, slowly.. be his friend first? that's about the best way i know..

also, depends on if he's also interested...

lots of ifs... i think it's best to win his heart with your honesty and sincerity Smile

again, good luck Smile

^cereal^ SG

You had posted on the following:
14th July: how to let your bf cherish you more
http://www.sgforums.com/?action=thread_display&thread_id=52053

20th July: how to cope with breakoffs
http://www.sgforums.com/?action=thread_display&thread_id=52576

6th Aug (today) You're asking on how to go after a guy? hm.. in short, the 4 yrs of r/s which you spoke off, takes you less than mere effort in forgetting it?

Rolling Eyes

the Bear SG

oh wow... cereal remembered.. i didn't.. my bad Neutral

Angel^_^ SG

cereal..well..to each its own...yah..? well..maybe it's time for her to look for another happiness or maybe she's trying to help a frenz to post the Q..? Rolling Eyes

well jeslin..i dunno how to help u..but ermm..tryt o be frenz wif the guy..den slowly slowy get to noe him better..dun engage in relationship tt fast yah..? be frenz first..no hurry though.. Wink

Doenitz SG

Take off your clothes…IF u got the assets,that is…

^cereal^ SG

yeah of coz i'm not against anyone seeking for their own happiness then when you look back and read the posts, cant help but wonder if it's just a mere crush or rebound.

By helping her going after the guy, will we be ruining her and resultant is that she'll come back posting on how life suxz coz she feels the guy is not whom she is seeking out afterall?

There are alot of repercussion/consequences involved.... just my 2 cents... no offense intended whatsoever...

jeslin SG

cereal, dun worry, i’m not that type of girl. i’m going after my bf. =) so i need quite a bit of help here.

^cereal^ SG

then it's a different set of answers altogether - wooing your 'ex' back and wooing a friend into your life..

the Bear SG

same guy?

hope he appreciates the lengths you are going to Smile

jeslin SG

i think i have to try very very hard.. but if in the end, he doesn't appreciate, den.. dot dot dot..

Angel^_^ SG

keke..yep cereal..she asked for our suggestions..and all we can ever do is to give her advices..in the end..she's the one who made the decision.. Wink

there's up and down yah..? there's no perfection in this mother earth..if she failed..well..den she'll hv to learn to accept and do it over again.. Wink

yep cereal..it's understandable tt u're trying to minus off her sufferings.. Wink hope jeslin noe at tt.. Mr. Green

Angel^_^ SG

aiyo..den u should hv said tt u're trying to patch back wif yr ex mah..kekeke.. Mr. Green

^cereal^ SG

luckily i remembered, else we will be going one big round providing advice to the wrong route... it's always good to backtrack a little sometimes...

Angel^_^ SG

keke..yah..totally different leh..keke..ut hey jeslin..good luck to yah.. Wink

jeslin SG

i noe i noe. actually, i’m glad that someone’s truely concerned. thanks cereal. ^.

jeslin SG

den now how? i should do what? give him alot of time to rest? den how should i approach him and tell him? i very gan chiong… btw, u guys are great, really. a big big thank u from deep deep of my heart. =)

the Bear SG

give him time and don't lose contact with him?

i'm going through the same thing.. hoping that i'll win her back, so i know the feeling...

i hope i'm telling you the right thing.. coz i'm trying to do the right thing myself...

i love her... and i know you love him too... you are trying very hard Smile

again, good luck.. may love, peace, joy and serenity be yours Smile