What is wrong with me ?

{WuMing}78 SG

don_gn
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Joined: 19 Apr 2003
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Send Message 05 August 2003 ~{!$~} 08:37 AM

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I think I am sick........................ when she sms me, i kept thinking of her. When she show me her pic, I kept thinking of sex with her............... I must be very sick.

I am not sick. Just that since this guy started this topic, might as well pour out my sorrows in this forum.....

I didn't get a girlfriend ever since the last relationship and I am damn DAMN frusted about it because as a man, I have my manly needs (besides sex which is of course impossible without ROM and an Engagement Ring). I want to get a girlfriend to love me, but I just can't commit to it ?

What's my problem ? Please, for those kind-hearted people who wants to help, please advice... thanks Neutral

jnifur SG

Is it that u are still thinking about ur ex?
Or is it that the gals u targetted just happened to be not available or not really interested? Sometimes perhaps timing is not rite, may not be u.... Rolling Eyes

^cereal^ SG

Based on the surface, this is what I see. Sorry no sweet nothings, just my 2 cents worth...

You mentioned you cant get a gf since the last r/s. You should know the reason why. Is it bcoz you were inflicted with alot of hurt/pain that's why subconsciously you feel you're not ready for a r/s?

How old are you? Are you in any hurry to find yourself a partner?

You want a gf - you like the idea of someone special being around to love and care for you. You envy those out there in the streets walking hand-in-hand. You cant help but wonder why is it that you can't be like them. You want a gf for the sake of wanting one, becoz people around you have partners, but not you?

You can't commit - becoz you don't want to be tied down, you want to enjoy singlehood life. You dread having to be committed to your partner and be responsible towards the r/s.

Yunhaier SG

Wants a girlfriend that loves you but you can't commit into having a relationship? Isn't like trying have the best of both world? Needs satisfied without any inputs of effort? Rolling Eyes

You know what is the real problem that lies within you?

You simply do not know what you are looking for in a relationship. In simple, you do not know what you want.

You mentioned you have your needs, etc - you mean you are getting a girlfriend because you have to have your needs satisfied? Rolling Eyes

In practical, it is always in effect subconsciously, but it shouldn't be the main basis of entering into a relationship with your gf. Probably the time isn't right and your mental and emotional mind isn't ready or couldn't find someone suitable to fit the bill.

Your want a fulfilling relationship, you cannot do without commitment. If you feel you can't commit, either you practice discipline and probably improve yourself in all aspects meanwhile or you could degenerate into looking for ONS or flings to satisfied short-term needs. Rolling Eyes

Free will lies within you. This isn't a problem at all from my point of view - its just your emptiness crying out for love and comfort.

Cheers

{WuMing}78 SG

Actually, about the sex, that's PURELY a joke....

I am actually in a conflict between chosing a relationship and singlehood.

Singlehood is nice, but sucks in the end because at the end of the day, I will be a the sea-side watching the day set and I am alone in the world without knowledge of my existance.

Relationship is good cause at the end of the day, I know I will have someone who is waiting for me, will comfort me, kiss me and hug me as we watch the sun-set and sun-rise together. But, who is THAT girl. Who can love my Lord Jesus Christ than herself and who can love me more than herself. Who is THAT girl who is willing to accept me, a person who can't express himself like Ricky Martin Latino Boy. Who is THAT girl who can surprise me and impress me? Who is THAT girl who will love me and WILL never try to hurt me.....

I guess being a 25 year old adult has many difficult choices to make....... and I am never good at this.

Sucks.......... Neutral

Yunhaier SG

Choosing between singlehood and relationship?

Its high time to take side, don't you think?

In relationship, its either Black or White - the grey area is where people's confusion arise. Rolling Eyes

To the girl you mentioned above - nobody can tell you WHO that girl, however, you hold the key to her. You just have to source and find.

P.S: Sometimes we wasted too much time looking for the perfect partner, when in reality, we should be perfecting the love we may hold and give. Only enter a relationship with her if you know that this relationship has its potential - everything else, both positive and negative, will fall into places when love surface. You are worrying and thinking about un-constructive thoughts. Chill up. Rolling Eyes

Cheers

AzRaeL SG

sex which is of course impossible without ROM and an Engagement Ring)

SINCE WHEN?!!!!
geeeze! Girls actually like and enjoy sex too ya know?[/quote]

Devil1976 SG

Originally posted by Yunhaier:

Sometimes we wasted too much time looking for the perfect partner, when in reality, we should be perfecting the love we may hold and give. Only enter a relationship with her if you know that this relationship has its [b]potential - everything else, both positive and negative, will fall into places when love surface. You are worrying and thinking about un-constructive thoughts. Chill up. Rolling Eyes

Cheers [/b]

Well said. Cool

NeonTetra SG

pls refrain from such blasphemies

Yunhaier SG

Embarassed

Devil1976 SG

Where's me money? Twisted Evil

T-711 SG

that sounds like my current situation now.....
but i am much younger. 19.

read my thread, confidence lost it at aunt agony.

actually i dunno what i want too.... i really hope for a gf but i cant commit too.... think i am too used to singlehood and cant adjust....
now i am very afraid to woo gers in fear of rejection or hurting her.....

Yunhaier SG

Hahahahhahahahaha! So you know about it eh?

/me credit Devil's bank account.

*Damn, thought it was free advertising?* Twisted Evil

Devil1976 SG

Nothing comes free... Twisted Evil