Yunhaier SG Its more about what he wants out from this relationship - a half-hearted, couldn't care much less guy wouldn't learn the value of treasure because, crudely put, you don't really meant much to him. Or simply, he has never enter into a proper relationship before. Definition of Proper: Long term, committment based, chemistry, etc. Try trashing things out with him and learn to see what could be the reason from his point of view - you never know unless you have communicate the issue together. Cheers
cHeR|sH^LoVe SG maybe dun treat him too well..dun let him take u for granted.. maybe then.. he will start cherishing u.. for fear of losing you..
jeslin SG but he's those dun care dun care type lor.. once i asked him, if i dun care about him, then he say he oso bo chub lor.. i dun care abt him, den he heck care me lor.. our friends assure me that he's really like me.. but he has really take me for granted.. when i ask him if he wanna see me... he says dun mind, anything... when i ask him to accompany me for the night, he says next time... whats dun mind? whats next time? whats anything? do i mean anything to him? guys.. can u plz tell me how ur brain works?
archie84 SG hai !!! sometime i really hope to have a girlfriend like you , a ger who care . My girlfriend is something like your boyfriend and i think even WORST She totally dont care about me !!! sometime i think letting her go , but ......but...... just cant gather myself to do it . i treat her so good that i think she take for granted . hai !!! thats life ........ guess when you lose a person then you will really appreciated them !!!
Yunhaier SG This relationship even need your mutual friends to reassure for him about his love for you? Ridiculous. Why not try telling him that you will be marrying to his best friend next month? Probably he will give his earnest blessing. Rubbish. This is where you stand in his heart - company when he needs it. Emotionally, of course this is an unfulfilling relationship. Allow me to ask crudely - what do you actually sees in him before being together? May I know if this relationship was borned after knowing each other for a short amount of time period? Cheers
newb SG that's me, before my gf break up with me... it's only the moment that we broke up, then i realised how important she is..... when we broke up then i want to meet her, spend time with her but too late liao....... maybe he won't know it until he really know that u r no longer there for him anymore....
jeslin SG i'm with him for 1 year plus liao [from last patch].. we broke and patched alot times.. if i count the total time we have been together, i think we are together for more than 3 years. there's once he fell for another girl, but he came back, so, from then on, i afraid of him go away again, treat him better. maybe too good liao.. now he says he wans freedom.. but he has lots of it already.. i just need him just to be there.. thats all. am i too posessive?
sillyme SG when you love someone, you'll naturally cherish the other person.. u don't need to do anything about it.. think about this..
Yunhaier SG To be frank with you - never had I seen/witness/heard/etc a successful relationship from one that undergo break/patch vicious cycle. It may not be your fault; probably its the combination of both. Cheers
sNicKeRdOodLe SG dere's no way to let him cherish u more..only hope tt things turn out better.. mi too, was in a similar situation as u b4, treat him TOO gd..in e end.. Mabbe e care u gave him is too much for him to take, tt's why he said he wan freedom?? some guys wil regret nt cherishing u after u haf gone.. aniway..all e best!! hope everything turns out well 4 e both of ya..
Hiroyuki Takei SG Hey....you are at least better then me leh.... I'm not allowed to talk to any other guys...and mix around with those friends of mine in the past.....now i totally is not contacting with any of my friends...even though i see my friends outside when i was with my boyfriend i don't even dare to greet my friend hi or bye....now he's getting more and more jia lat....my movements are controlled......
Hiroyuki Takei SG Still i am still in contact with 2 or 3 or my friends (which are girls)...but neber come out 1….contact as in once a month or once every 2 months….....even though my friends and parent tell me how to solve it….They ask me not to do things he say….example..he ask me go out or anything i agreed straight away…....they teach me try to play hard to get…..so he will cherish me more…..........but fear of breaking up…....i din heed their advice though i noe it can be used….and very good to use…....
birdbird SG i sympathise with u bro cos i can relate to it.sigh..... Originally posted by archie84: hai !!! sometime i really hope to have a girlfriend like you , a ger who care . My girlfriend is something like your boyfriend and i think even [b]WORST She totally dont care about me !!! sometime i think letting her go , but ......but...... just cant gather myself to do it . i treat her so good that i think she take for granted . hai !!! thats life ........ guess when you lose a person then you will really appreciated them !!! [/b]
f[a]erie SG 2 make things short... hmmm.. i broke up w my bf.. cuz he say he love someone else more.. yet now he's back.. n we r kinda back 2gether.. but i hve no idea where's this is going.. n i will get real worried frm time to time.. but i'd learnt not to grumble that much.. hmm.. as in i wont expect frm him.. i wont expect him to do this or do that.. i guess this is natural.. cuz its obvious that i do love him more than he love me.. n.. tink i'm blessed enough to hve him by my side now.. n e fact that he is actually tryin al he can.. puttin effort in2 dis relatnshp.. kinda reassures me more.. i guess.. try not to expect... hmm.. u wil feel better that way.. seriously... juz put it dis way.. somethings r juz meant to be.. it juz happens.. if he really cares 4 u.. it shows.. mayb u din notice it.. or mayb u been expectin much more than he can give... on e other hand.. if he juz dun bother.. dun tel me u cant feel it... if u reali luv him.. juz kp ur fingers crossed.. n b glad that he's aredi by your side.. there's alot of pple out there who r stil yearnin 4 someone whom they can cal their own.. no worries.. everythin hve their own way of wrkin out.. it'l b fine.. cheers
T-711 SG playing hard to catch is good but dun overdo it as he might lose interest easily. hmm. but if he does, bet he dun really love u... what u say of him seems like he wants it out of a relationship. for me i think he is not ready or got tired after a couple of failures... maybe try sorting things out with him over a conversation. how i wish i have some gers who love me too.... just some stupid advice. i been only in 1 relationship. haha
ugo_gal SG relationships are like a heart, u must learn how to contract and relax at the right time.. sometimes u have to be good to him, at times u have to be firm and make ur stand, at times u be a little demanding, at times be cheeky. give and take, and if he doesnt give, well dump him,
Muffins SG probelms like this arises at times i cannot bring myself to understand the general psyche of mypeers they want to get into a relaitonship because well they CAN make mistakes ... The stupidity in that... the ironic process that goes in their head ...they say they are allowed to make mistakes well if they are aware of them why make them and si it fun to be happy or more crudely have usch superficial relationships and human interaction when the other party has a different view in taking that seriously.that asa ifni the relationship or the BOND itself .. playing at the expense of others sigh how sad the world is
Muffins SG ui am not tryi toi imply that your relaiionship is of one your boyfriend may be tryin his own way of making you cherish him one word --observe
Honeybunz SG How about finding someone who can cherish you more? There is no way to change a guy. It's a lot easier for a guy to change a girl. You can either accept him the way he is, or change boyfriend.
