Yunhaier's Karmic Scenario

Yunhaier SG

Twisted Evil

windjammer SG

Originally posted by Yunhaier:
One day, you fell in love with this special person, whom in the end, became your bf/gf over the course of several months courtship. You feel that she is the one you probably going to last VERY long (not speaking on the basis of marriage, but if possible and if fate allows, it could happen). The both of you ride through the storms of your relationship and enjoy the aftermath through a period of probably 3 years.

You felt that she/he may be the one....

You felt that probably no one else would take his/her place...

You were utterly wrong.

You got to know this person (I called it the 'One') and you finally discovered that ALL ALONG THIS LIFE, [b]this is the person you are looking for. You went beserk, despair or even resigned to fate. Everything you desire and want in a lady/guy (physical + characteristic) is found in him/her. He/she is everything you need and ever hope for and probably if he/she becomes your partner - you would be quite certain marriage will be an option in the future. Rolling Eyes

What will you do? You still have feelings for your gf, but VERY strong attraction towards your 'One'. You felt that everyday you are missing not your gf/bf but the 'One' and your craving for him/her is getting more addictive every day of your life.

Then, one fine day, you discovered that she shared the same liking for you as well. Rolling Eyes

You bleed inside from the turmoil and torment.

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What will you do? [/b]

if there is 'One' there will be 'Two', 'Three' in future. It will be never ending... Mr. Green

blue_kelvinsg SG

i will go for the 'one'.
there is no fair play in the game of love. hence, you can never get the best of both worlds.
there is little point holding back to the old relationship because you know that little will result from it (in this case, when you have found the 'one')
very certainly, struggles will result. one party will get hurt but i believe its more important to make the right decision in life.
i'll go for the one.

Yunhaier SG

There are alot of people who mentioned that they will stick with their gf - but seriously speaking: when the real things happens, the result may not be what they intended in the first place unconsciously.

SoonKeong SG

3 years can mean alot. Human are all liddat, we cant escape the feeling of the heart. We cant always remain static, which means our heart changes overtime. Seriously i never even think "forever" this word existed.

I will chose "the one".
The 3yr old gf case is realli classified as "Utterly wrong." Wad's there to think about? Feeling changes. Yes, being together for 3 years is not easy, go thru many storms aint easy as well. But the feeling is not there already, its unquestionable going on with life is the next thing.

Then come the next stage of the question:
How to break?
Have to face her, her family, her frens, ur family and ur frens? Dont bare to break her heart? Or cannot let go?

Lets be straightforward, cherish the feeling. Once gone it might not come back again. To break up is not easy, but well, impossible is never the word.

En' SG

What will YOU choose to do?

fugue SG

Originally posted by En':

What will [b]YOU choose to do?[/b]

Zhan! Good question... It's his turn to speak. Cool

But for me, I'll go for the latter since it seems to be better. Real life, there are other factors to consider...

Devil1976 SG

Of course there won't be an 'absolute' for such a future.... But you asked for our 'choice'... If GIVEN a choice, that'll be OUR CHOICE... Cool

Yunhaier SG

Originally posted by En':

What will [b]YOU choose to do?[/b]

Someone that attracts me alot doesn't mean I may be suitable for her and she to me; probably stick with gf and convert her to a very good friend instead. Change attraction to platonic.

En' SG

Originally posted by Yunhaier:

Someone that I attracts me alot doesn't mean I may be suitable for her and she to me; probably stick with gf and convert her to a very good friend instead. Change attraction to platonic.

Laughing
True, true! Cool

Though if is really a karmic relationship, perhaps somethings are meant to happen or something, so we can't really say for sure now, can we...? Confused

Neutral

Yunhaier SG

Something meant to happen? - Probably. Even if the events don't manifest, most of the time - its the individual which would have to undergo their own personal reflection and pondering over what they actually want.

En' SG

Hmmm... personal reflections eh? Hmmm....

Seems you do have an idea of what you want Wink
Laughing Mr. Green

(Thankfully this kinda things haven't happen to me, so dun have to make that kinda decisions )
Twisted Evil

looksee SG

I know exactly the kinda feeling...For me, i chose to forget the 'One'...hard but i know i had to. Ok, say if u chose the 'One', i'm sure u'll end up missing ur present gf if u & the 'One' had a fight...or when u see ur gf cry when u ask for break-up...juz run through all scenarios beforehand in ur head...u will then have a clearer view. Hey pal, no matter what ur choice is, don't go two-timing, u'll sufer even more.

nismoS132 SG

its times like this that some guys wish we could revert back in time where 1 guy can have many wives Twisted Evil Laughing

M©+square SG

I'll choose to be alone and find what do i actually want in life.

Because it seems that a relationship that could last for 3 years couldn't even make me sure of who, what and why i am. Then what have i been doing all those while???? Rolling Eyes

It just literally means that i'm not satisfied with what i have.
The 'One' may just be a present standard....if i would blindly follow my heart, there'll be another the 'One' somewhere.....

To take risk? The best person who knows he/her own heart is one who who reaches the end of the him/herself. The answer is at the end. Neutral

Cheers

birdbird SG

interesting indeed.... Rolling Eyes alot of factors play a part.for instance if my current r/s with my gf is on the rock,it might just push me to the One but on the other hand,the One might be just initial attraction.I will stay put n observe.

smoke SG

I have already chosen "The One" over my gf because I realised that I have found what I wanted. Note that "The One" is in no way comparable to my ex gf in terms of looks, education or financial and social status. However, I never regretted my choice even though she has already left me to go back to her country. I still am wating for the day that we can be together. Smile

Honeybunz SG

Easy... I will think of all the good things that my boyfriend has done for me. I will think of all the happy moments we have together. I will tell myself no regrets having started the relationship. This is because, I will never believe that I make any wrong choice or wrong move in choosing a partner. The ONE may or may not happen. Even if it happens, it's just a crush. How can I be so sure that I can be as happy with the ONE as with my current boyfriend? Life is too short to gamble on this.

I will stick to my boyfriend

snowygal SG

I am kinda in such a situation now. I am the "one " to a good fren. He has been thinking of me more than he thinks of his gf of 6 yrs.

But i dun think things will work out for us. i dun tink i wan to come inbetween them

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