oh aren't we all in the same boat? ehhe
i'm 27, most of my guy friends are either married, attached, kids,
divorced even! (divorced is out of point but anyways)...
so seeing them can sometimes be very difficult and i'm not
surprised that there could be a span of 2-3 months b4 i actually
get to see some of my really good buddies. of course we catch up on
phone, sms, icq etc, but meeting up and having dinner like u want
to is almost impossible. it sounds sad, and i guess it is, but it's
true.
so how do i react? i just let it go lor. i mean it's DINNER, it's
not that ah long come and hang pig's head and sit three ah bengs
outside my house. THAT's the diff.
i believe that when i NEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEED them, they'll drop
everything (except the baby their carrying i spose?) and fly over
to my side. of course this is reciprocated.
so i guess my point is that a real friend doesn't have to be seen.
and well, maybe i'm the kind that is also zhong se qing you, becos
if/when i'm attached, i'll be or want to be spending as much time
as i can with my gf. of course i was blessed with my previous gfs
getting on well with my friends so going out as a group occurred
frequently (ESP during uni days!)
u can confront your fren and "scold" her as u say, if u feel that
she won't be the type that will fly to ur side when u're in NEED.
then again, if a "friend" has to be told this, wat kind of
friendship is it? these things are understood. i mean how comical
would i sound if i went "eh brudder, we don't see each other nvm,
but i just feel that when i really need u to help, u won't lor..."
it's just gonna make both parties uncomfortable. it's like
indirectly telling him, u suck as a friend. now. that's not how
REAL friends talk to each other.
recently i was in need, and i approached a friend whom i thot would
"fly to me". he disappointed me. but i took it in my stride and
said to myself that TECHNICALLY he doesn't owe me anything. i
complained to another fren and he said, how can he (the first
friend) do this to you? he's your FRIEND leh. he should help u
lor.
yes.. he "should". but if he doesn't then how? like that lor!!
basically it's like that, friends got different level one. i'm not
gonna ignore that friend that failed to help, but i know next time
that if i ever need help, i won't approach him. likewise, i'm sure
he knows if there's a certain thing he needs, he won't approach me.
unless he buay paiseh, but this fella i know quite well.. he won't
one.
damn long grandmother story leh.. dunno u get my point anot.
think if i have to sum it up, this would be it: you just have to
"kan4 kai1 yi4 dian3"!!! 
