Originally posted by ^cereal^:
I sympathise with you, having given much but yet found none
to reciprocate...
firstly, you have to understand the following:
1) You barely know your ex gf for a long time (I'm putting it as
'[b]ex', becoz I considered it a as past r/s, anything
good that comes outta it in future will be a brand new r/s to start
with. 
)
it means, she may find that you're not exactly the
one she's looking for after having spend some time with you. When
she agreed to go into a r/s with you, she could be doing it bcoz
she finds it hard to reject or she did it on a moment of impulse,
bcoz you are there. (Of coz it can happen to anyone else at that
moment, I may be wrong though) This means. she's on the rebound
after the previous r/s, thus she's diverting/transferring her
affection onto you, whom she though is the right one.
2) Having said that, please bear in mind, she said she did have a
'crush' on you. Crush here means attraction of the opp sex, mostly
becoz of outlook/physical appearance, etc etc, attraction that most
probably will fade with time. (I may be wrong on this). When she
told you she'll prefer you to be her friend after 11 days of
togetherness, you should be glad she didn't drag it any further.
For chances are, you'll feel more tormented and the impact will be
100 times or even 1000 times more greater.
I will consider her to be mature enough to put a
stop to a r/s which she considered fruitless (probably at this
moment in time, bcoz she's too confused and is not able to commit
becoz you're putting in more than her). She's being frank with you
by telling you not to treat her so nice and that you're putting in
more effort than her. The reason she's telling you that is becoz
she don't want you to be shortchanged. I bet with you not many
girls can be as frank as her. 
I will advise you to bid your time of coz. WHY? Simply becoz if you
advance any further, you will ruin the chance of her knowing you
better, and probably not allowing the friendship to grow and
deepen. She may feel pressured into withdrawing away from you, by
then I don't reckon you have any chance at all. As of now, it's
still a 50-50 that you guys might end up together after she manage
to sort out everything.
Take heart, bid for your time. Who knows you'll come back telling
us, she's afterall not the real one you're seeking for?
All the best...
Cheerz.
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does that mean that i have to take thing slowly? as she did
mention that we are going on too faST as lasty she did mention that
ýou might not know after year we will be together'' what does that
mean ? wait for her for few year?hai! as i felt pain inside my
heart cos she is the one that i going to spend my life with.... but
she told me that she had never think that further... feeling that i
am asuch a loser! hai!
