how 2 keep a relationships alive for decades?

last SG · 2003-06-28T12:54:43+00:00

Well... i think you are not commited enough for a long term run. to enable a long term run, 1 most important is that both party had to show commitment.

ugo_gal SG

i have past relationships turned out boring and full of conflicts after few months or a year of courtship. any solution? i'm sick of breaking and patching thingy, juz wanna settle down and make my new relationship a long run.. Very Happy Wink

Yunhaier SG

Your birth dates? Time born? And you born in Singapore?

Devil1976 SG

Rolling Eyes

tiggersgd SG

part and parcel of growing up

Devil1976 SG

Hi... A love relationship is not really just about those techniques and rules which make them last.... It's just what the both of you do which makes it MEANINGFUL.... Personally, I find that with a relationship which runs on and on but without much meaning probably defy its purpose too...? Take for example...

2 people living apart in 2 distant countries... A married couple which keeps an open mind about it... Both very busy with their own life... They don't fly over to visit each other... Not even phone calls or e-mails... Nothing... Perhaps just an e-mail every few months...? They acknowledge the existence of the relationship, and the relationship went on for decades... Some time after the man died... The wife didn't even cry.... Well... That's a relationship for decades...?

MEANING... Something which you CREATE... If you don't have to be around to CREATE it.... Then you're probably REDUNDANT in the picture....? Rolling Eyes

Gary25 SG

Having a relationship is just the start...both sides have to work at it....and i mean BOTH sides....its a struggle to keep a relationship interesting...but the rewards are great. On some days, the newspapers contain articles abt this or that couple can be together for umpteen years and find their relationship still going strong (more likely in the New Paper). U just got to keep working at it.. Wink

ugo_gal SG

well, it's easily said than done Neutral i have been telling myself to do it since years ago and i tried but it just didnt work out... haiz* Sad it's hard for me to love someone for long and i dun know why... maybe it's genetic? my father is a " hua1 xin1 carrot" and i think i carry his traits. i just dun wan to be blind and lose another mr right Neutral

AzRaeL SG

that is something i would definitely like to know.
I think maybe it's just that being together is so wonderful that you dont really notice the years fly by.

audlenelee SG

it takes 2 hands to clap…

ugo_gal SG

true Smile

zeth_april SG

...well this is not a 100% solution..but at least.. it does help prolong the relationship abit... Very Happy

appreciate ur other 1/2 for inner qualities rather den outer qualities which u'll get tired of sooner or later...

confide in each other when ever there is problem..instead of keeping it or fearing tt ur other 1/2 will worry for u..
sometimes tokking it out helps in clearing misunderstands too...

gives ur other 1/2 little surprises occasionally to show him/her that u still care and both of u are still as loving as before...

Very Happy

ugo_gal SG

Very Happy ThAnK YoU Mr. Green

Devil1976 SG

Genes usually don't work by ABSOLUTEs but more like PROBABILITY.... Unless it's in some cases of cross-spring where both parents carry the genetic factors of some combination for some disease in such a way that it's offspring is an ABSOLUTE carrier... Such parents would usually be given genetic counselling...

ANYWAYs, don't blame things on GENEs... Genes don't THINK? But you CERTAINLY DO...? Cool

ugo_gal SG

i'm not blaming on my genes that were passed on from my family, but i do believe DNA.. although everyone in the family are unique but i do believe that they are identical in some ways

Yunhaier SG

Astrological mode on:

Before I begain my analysis - I have one comment: You have poor/weak health. Do take care alright? Wink

There is one very important aspect in your life - your future marriage. I can see you may have this tendency to fall for guys who gives you the feeling of indifference yet enjoying his company. Fun loving and adventurers. Rolling Eyes

Your comflicts with your boyfriend probably has to do with your Pluto in fifth house squaring your Mars. You should maintain equal footing with your boyfriend and not attempt to dominate. You have this determination to continue pursuing a relationship until the end -but you should set your committment only to the correct guy who can also give you the same committment. It may be wiser to move on - rather than to keep trying. Rolling Eyes

Let me enlight you about something: Love is not suffering; its learning about the process and attaining satisfaction and happiness from it. Your Moon square your Saturn - probably you would feel that to love is to suffer. Widen you mind and do not let your emotions restrict your higher potential. Rolling Eyes

P.S: You are quite highly sexual. Twisted Evil

Cheers

ugo_gal SG

Originally posted by Yunhaier:

[b]Astrological mode on:

Before I begain my analysis - I have one comment: You have poor/weak health. Do take care alright? Wink

There is one very important aspect in your life - your future marriage. I can see you may have this tendency to fall for guys who gives you the feeling of indifference yet enjoying his company. Fun loving and adventurers. Rolling Eyes

Your comflicts with your boyfriend probably has to do with your Pluto in fifth house squaring your Mars. You should maintain equal footing with your boyfriend and not attempt to dominate. You have this determination to continue pursuing a relationship until the end -but you should set your committment only to the correct guy who can also give you the same committment. It may be wiser to move on - rather than to keep trying. Rolling Eyes

Let me enlight you about something: Love is not suffering; its learning about the process and attaining satisfaction and happiness from it. Your Moon square your Saturn - probably you would feel that to love is to suffer. Widen you mind and do not let your emotions restrict your higher potential. Rolling Eyes

P.S: You are quite highly sexual. Twisted Evil

Cheers[/b]

thankz Mr. Green
beri the accurate

Yunhaier SG

You are welcome missy.

Devil1976 SG

Yes, there're such things as DNA. But whatever you've heard about them may not all be true. Caution on this one... Cool

Xiao Long Nu SG

i tink soemtimes…to love someone..doesnt mean to stay with him or her forever..

sh|nY_BoY SG

2 must do their part….u cant clap with 1 hand .. u need 2