Sounds like you can be a good friend of hers...? Hmm... And
pardon me for saying this... You sound like you've got your own
unpleasant share (before?) too...? That's why you can empathise
with her so much...?
Originally posted by Devil1976:
Yes, it is Sumini. She is just unhappy lor
with the way her mum in law do especially hanging clothes area.
Quite often. Only I know that she just bang the main gate to let
her mum in law know that she is not happy. I know it is wrong act.
Yet, his hubby is not sensitive towards her.. I told her that it
can't be helped as he is the only son in the family ( he got other
2 sisters). U know, the son is considered as important person in
the family, regardless birth order of sibling.
You're quite right about your point... Besides... Just as she's
hoping that her husband should be more sensitive to her, I think
it's only FAIR enough if she starts to be SENSITIVE enough to how
her husband feels about the whole matters and perhaps a bit more
sensitive to the people around her (that one I won't know for
sure...)...
[b]Yes, it is her ..who else lah.. me pure
Singaporean... My friend also a local but she studied aboar... I
think she is influenced by the western cultures or
thinking..
Hmm... Is she someone you kinda look upon..? Say... You admire the
things she dare speak of and do....? Hmm..? 
of cos, Chinese.... But she dun study Chinese
language. Grew up in the English oriental family.
I see...
Nope, her hubby dun support mum since he got younger
sister to take care of everything mum wants/needs. I am awake of
the 'Extras'between her n her in law.cannot be helped. I feel her
hubby shld be more sensitive towards her and find another better
solutions. it is understandable that he is having different stress
in life.
Sometimes 'better solutions' just sounds 'better' in THEORY.... In
this case, like the proposal she've suggested is not so easy in
carrying out... (not from his husband, the actor's point at
least...) Alot of other things could end up winding into the
situation if it gets anymore complicated.... And in the case where
if it would be finally carried out.... Consequences would come
in....
Talk about being sensitive...? Her husband's a human too...? So is
his mum... His sisters... Carrying out such an act won't it be like
siding his wife and not siding the mum in his mother's eyes...?
It's not about being TRADITION and OLD-FASHION in thoughts...? It's
about BEING SENSITIVE.... Not only to his wife... But to his mum's
feelings too... Afterall, who's the one responsible for WHO HE IS
today...? I can ALMOST ASSURE you that his mum's efforts probably
couldn't be overlooked... And also, I can assure you that this is
NOT about being TRADITIONAL... If he can just IGNORE his mum today,
he can as easily ignore his wife (your friend) and his children in
the future to come.... 
sighz....we are living in 21st century, not back to
old generations¡K everyone got to move on and keep an open eye /
mind to the everyday changes..
MOVING ON is sometimes easier said than done... Everybody stands in
a DIFFERENT position with a DIFFERENT background... Let's say I can
take just 8 mins to walk a 100m... Of course it won't be so
difficult for me... But it DOESN'T mean that everybody else would
be able to do that...? People with background complications (sick
or old..).... People in a flooded area or in the mountains...
MOVE ON.... Very easy to say from my position.... You shouldn't
GENERALISED by saying that we're living in the 21st century... Are
you a working class may I ask?
I won't talk about the 'century' here... I'll talk to you something
MORE PRACTICAL... THIS YEAR... Recognise it or not, it IS a
DIFFICULT year....
Divorce, she do thinks of it but she finds it ridiculous to do so
cuz of the problems with in-laws only. But her hubby she really not
looking for.. no choice to carry on the marriage with him for the
sake of children.
Hmm... Ok... Glad that she realise its ridiculous too...?
Well, it perhaps makes her feel better if her hubby goes with her..
but the consultant wont take both sides to listen and just sit n
give advice¡K I have been to one b4.
Ok... But my GUESS is her husband might have this MENTALITY that
it's probably gonna be just a WASTE OF TIME... Not meaning that the
consultation is gonna be useless, but your friend probably would
just create other din even is this consultation turns out not to
her satisfaction or unfavourable to her...
[b]I think alikely ³ ... But it CERTAINLY can be
HELL if she decides to make it WORSE? Cannot be helped if she over
look the things that can make something worse¡K what should she can
do even she try to be content?
I can only say this is not really the time to blow up matters...
There're probably other ways to work things out... Why can she
think of working things out between her and her hubby BUT NOT
between her and her in-law...? Why would she expect people to give
in to HER 'plan' but not work another 'plan' out or just listen to
what everybody else has to say in terms like negotiation...?
From the way I see it, her 'plan' just very much constitute of what
she WANTS and what she THINKS... Very little (if at all?) of what
others feel and what others have got to say...? Need I say more?
