*evanesence* SG Im not sure if my bf hangs out with this girl whom I find quite pretty, but she's another guy's fren. And she's kinda into that guy (my bf's fren)... However, I got kinda jealous... when I found out abt it... It's not like that Im darn ugly or what... I know my standards... But I still find her a threat, im not sure if it's normal to feel this way.. I dunno if im kicking a big fuss over this.. but I still feel uneasy if he hangs out with pretty gers... tt's if he has any pretty ger frens... Is this a "jealousy" issue or do I have a prob with my self-esteem?? Or issit a case of both?? ...
SunRisE SG You need to build up your confidence and trust in him.. If your bf is really those who goes for looks and nothing else.. I think this relationship will end even b4 this... Since those girls are not interested in your bf.. What's the b ig deal about it?? Even if yes.. then you should be glad.. cos you got a charming bf! You have to know your stand well... You ain't ugly.. You should know and understand well what's your bf character and personality! SHouldn't you give him his space and trust?? Don't worry too much.. If this really bothers you alot.. Try asking him out and talk to him in a nice tone.. Not like questioning him like a criminal! Cheers!
*evanesence* SG I know that... But Im a person who gets jealous easily.... I know that he & her are impossible... yet I get jealous... Maybe over time this jealous feeling would go away..
sillyme SG it's only natural for you feel jealous and threatened because your bf means something to you.. but look it from another way, you must have something special that your bf chose to be with you instead of other girls.. being attracted to someone goes beyond looks.. i'm sure both of you connect in some ways.. trust him.. a suspicious partner is a difficult person to be with.. trust youself.. being confident is attractive..
Yunhaier SG Jealousy - this complicated word is stem from a way of preception, possible threats and insecurity. It is a kind of self mental poison, because you are the only soul that feels it - so in a way what for? I always feel that girls should feel proud when their bf is hanging out with good looking ladies and not get jealous because the fact remains - he CHOSE you among his females friends and not because you are the 'top' looking female at that point of time. Looks fades and there are bound to be people even prettier, sexier and better; nobody can remain in the top for long. Your jealous comes from insecurity, which is related to your self confidence and fear of this relationship. Let me tell you - release those unneccessary fear and insecurity unless your bf shows sign of drifting. Afterall, IF HE WANTS TO LEAVE - it doesn't have to take a babe to achieve that. Cheers
*evanesence* SG Thanks alot for the advice... from all of u... After reading thru it.. it made me feel much better and reminded me of stuff which I had not tot of...
boy in blues SG dun let him know u jealous..he might feel hurt u dun trust him enuf..observe for any changes in his behavior wen u all 3 together..
PaJeRoMiNi Ver 1.0 SG Let him noe how much he means to you broth...erm sister.... From a guy's opinion, if I hear my gf telling me that, it reminds me how important she is to me also...and I'll be so touched I'll never even think of setting my eyes on another gal ever again
Papering SG well, if i were you, i'll be mad and jealous too. and i'll make it clear to my guy that i wont like the idea of him hanging around with other girls.. especially pretty ones. and if he does respect me, he'll stop doing this.
harryryan SG there...there....guys want freedom sometimes but personally if my gf can feel so jealous cos of me i also quite happi.that means i mean alot to her mah....
harryryan SG but dun over do like spying or checking location n place...it shows she does not thrust me n that does hurt.... especially if together very long liao.
Papering SG true true.. if the gal really go to spy or check up on her boyfren and i feel that she's overdoing it already. relationshop should base on trust.
harryryan SG hard to thrust anyone 100%either u bery heck care or he dun mean anything to u.... which r both bad.....
