Should i??

doghouse837 SG · 2003-05-31T14:30:44+00:00

Why cry because its over? Smile because it has happened. Many a times we are so focus on thinking about the 'being-together' part that we failed to see the m...

doghouse837 SG

i had a problem
last night my ex called me
we chat till around from 11plus to 3something in the morning
we chat and chat and later i found out that she had a stead now
i do still have feeling for her
as she told me alot of her bf good stuff
but out of sudden she ask me do i still have feeling about her? Embarassed
i admit i do have and i be frank with her
she ask me why dont i woo her back as she also still have feeling about me
i was speechless at the moment
i admit is my fault as i choose studies rather than her, and made up a story to break with her, saying i still miss my ex
but thats a lie, i really dont know what to say to break up at that time
at the moment of life, i was about in the lowest part of my life to broke off with her Crying or Very sad
but i had no choice, my studies sucks at that time and subject is the hardest to understand.
so i choose to leave her and focus on my studies
i know i am selfish, i do agree that
cause my sch fee is paid by my grandparents, as i dont wish to break their heart to fail any subject.
so i made up the choice to leave her, i really regrate now
but everything seems too late now Crying or Very sad
last night i tried to be very xiao sha, saying that if she had bf, i would wish her best in her stead, i know i am very dumb. i................

as i not that type of ppl that take relationship very lightly, i had to force myself to say those words out, my heart aches inside, i had to keeps inside.
she say she still have feeling about me, i was so happy, but she had stead now.
i really dont wish to make her break off with him to be with me
i dont wish to break ppl up
i really dont know what to do now
i think i really need advice in here Crying or Very sad

sillyme SG

i know you must be feeling terrible hearing that you ex is with someone now..
but you should be happy that she's feeling wonderful for her present bf..
you already gave yourself the answer to your question.. that you do not want to see them breakup.. you made a decision then to leave her.. and sorry to say, somethings cannot be undone.. you made a mistake, you have to face it and live with it..
move on ok? it'll hurt.. but you have no choice

peacely SG

your ex told you that she has feelings for you and wants you to woo her back.but does that mean that she has got no feelings for her current bf or she also has feelings for her current bf too?
i feel that you need to ask her and clear things out.

doghouse837 SG

am i very stupid or dumb??
to let go of a ger so nice
i admit, she is the only ger who had treated me so good Crying or Very sad
i hate myself if choosing to leave her last time
i am such a failure

Master -_- SG

Shocked wahhh..let me clear my tears first..then i reply to u Neutral

doghouse837 SG

i think she had often qurrel with her stead now
as he had began to change, as he is in NS now
i really dont know what she is thinking Crying or Very sad
i even told her that, if she is not attached now, i would try to woo her back
but i cant stop myself thinking about her stead
as she is with him for 4 months now

doghouse837 SG

thanks for pity on me
but i dont think i deserve it Crying or Very sad

peacely SG

maybe u should let her know the reason that you broke up with her previously, and how you are feelin now.
why not you ask her if she still have feelings for her bf?

doghouse837 SG

seems like i am a failure that no one even bother to reply
i dont blame anyone Crying or Very sad
i admit i am bad guy

doghouse837 SG

i had told her last night as she ask me why broke off last time
i told her the truth, i told her that i lie to her about the reason of breaking
i am sorry Crying or Very sad
i ask her do she have feeling about her bf, she say she is still very confuse
as the guy treat her very good and is a nice guy
but she still have feeling of me inside her

peacely SG

my views:

since you have given her up in the first place and she have found another bf and they are together now , but , she is confused abt who she really likes and wants to be with.
than , maybe time can tells . you should not stress her by forcing her to make a decision, ust let her know that you would be showing concern to her. Maybe as times goes by, she would be sure of who she really likes.

doghouse837 SG

i didnt force her
i just wish her to be happy only
even she choose her bf, i wont blame her
its all my fault
i made the foolishest mistake before Crying or Very sad
if i knew, i wont made it
i................

sillyme SG

girls correct me if i'm wrong..

her questioning why u didn't try to ask her back is not significant.. sometimes girls just ask these kind of thing.. it doesn't mean she wants you to do something about it.. to her it's just a question, and that's it..

doghouse837 SG

i admit there is no way that a guy is able to truly understand a ger mind
so its very hard for us to know the ture meaning behind it

doghouse837 SG

so many views but so little replies

ashgoh SG

Boy, you have to let go. Life still goes on.
Don't get involve in a 3rd party!!! Evil or Very Mad You will regret it.
If someday, your ex broke off with her current bf, hmmm you might consider if you are still unattached.
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lavender_scent SG

You have done the right thing in concentrating on your studies then. As to whether you've done the right or dumb thing about breaking up with your ex-gf is not for us to judge. If you are in your 20s, then I think you should be mature enough to know what is real love relationship. I pressume you're still a student, if so, focus on what you should be focusing, and love relationship will fit in nicely at the later time.

All the best.

Devil1976 SG

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doghouse837 SG

thanks
as i still in poly 3rd year
but due to i fail one of the module, i had to stay back one more sem
as my age, i born in 82 so u should know how old am i
i guess i should just let go Crying or Very sad

Devil1976 SG

What happens today is a result of what you've brought upon yourself in the past... You chose to tell her a lie... For whatever reason you may hold during that time... A relationship is about (at least) 2 people, not one... You made a decision of your own, you must be responsible enough to live up to it....

As you can clearly understand that she's all well with her current bf (though she might still have feelings for you.. Which can actually be quite natural..)... Just like your thoughts above, sometimes loving someone is not juts to possess her but instead to wish her well....

Your existence for now would only confuse her for now and jeopardise her current happy relationship... You've once caused her an unhappy broken relationship... The WORSE is to cause her another without even being in a direct relationship with her... Think about it...?

Sometimes people do make mistakes... It's pretty common... Some people don't even recognise the mistake and make MORE of them.... The WORSE is someone who recognise the mistake and YET make even more of them.... Since you've already got the answer, why ask...? It's more like a matter of your inner struggle... Is you 'evil' enough then things would certainly be easier..? Just GRAB her over and forget about the rest I've told you...? Hmm... Oh well...? Rolling Eyes