the world isn't fair. and when the world treats u unfairly,
irrational thoughts like "only girls are victims" comes to play.
i'm not about to say guys rule and gals suck here, but obviously it
is possible to be a victim irregardless of ur gender.
one of the worst things to feel is that of being unfairly treated.
especially about something that is really dear to our hearts.
mostly, time heals, but not without the help of a logical clear
mind. at least KNOW what you have to do to recover from your pain.
however long u wanna take is up to u. it'll be most tragic if you
just don't have a clue what you SHOULD be doing, as opposed to HOW
you should be feeling. you cannot control your feelings, but u sure
can control your actions. want some concrete examples?
i'm sure u've heard of the usual: like go out and meet ur frens,
take up a new hobby (join us at sentosa on weekends!!), spend time
playing games and watching vcds that u never had time to since u
were with him, take a holiday, concentrate on school/work, join
community centre and take up volunteer work or an enrichment
course, etc etc etc! these are steps, ACTIONS, that will get your
mind off things. during this time, the healing process will take
place naturally.
the other thing is your view towards future or impending
relationships. you can either choose to close ur heart and never
trust a guy again, or you can tell yourself that u will not be
beaten down and that every pain and hurt u have been thru has made
u stronger and more well-equipped and well-informed should u need
to make another decision to get hitched again. basically it's a
choice of whether u wanna learn from, or succumb to, a bad
experience.
above all, all these takes time. never at any point of time ask
urself, why am i still feeling so sh[/i]it? no one knows how long
it takes, but everyone knows WHERE they need to go. well i hope so
anyway.
in such situations, while emotions are raging, always keep ur
rational mind within reach, never let it fade. when i was down in
the utter sh[/i]its and couldn't think straight to save my life you
know wat i did? i just about told myself, i can't think, i'm gonna
let MY FRIENDS and FAMILY decide wat i should do. since i can't
think, i'll let those that love me think on my behalf becos i know
they only want the best for me. in other words, i really relied on
my friends and family and listened to them to the best of my
ability. so now, u see a new me! recovered from the wound, and i
might say the scar is rather faint now too! try listening to those
that are close to u. they only mean well for u even tho u may not
see it now.
take care~~ 
